Here’s Why We Grieve Today


I don’t think you understand us right now.

I think you think this is about politics. 

I think you believe this is all just sour grapes; the crocodile tears of the losing locker room with the scoreboard going against us at the buzzer.

I can only tell you that you’re wrong. This is not about losing an election. This isn’t about not winning a contest. This is about two very different ways of seeing the world.

Hillary spoke about a diverse America; one where religion or skin color or sexual orientation or place of birth aren’t liabilities or deficiencies or moral defects. Her campaign was one of inclusion and connection and interdependency. It was about building bridges and breaking ceilings. It was about going high. 

Trump imagined a very selective America; one that is largely white and straight and Christian, and the voting verified this. Donald Trump has never made any assertions otherwise. He ran a campaign of fear and exclusion and isolation—and that’s the vision of the world those who voted for him have endorsed.

They have aligned with the wall-builder and the professed p*ssy-grabber, and they have co-signed his body of work, regardless of the reasons they give for their vote:

Every horrible thing Donald Trump ever said about women or Muslims or people of color has now been validated.
Every profanity-laced press conference and every call to bully protestors and every ignorant diatribe has been endorsed.
Every piece of anti-LGBTQ legislation Mike Pence has championed has been signed-off on.

A huge portion of our country has declared these things acceptable, noble, American

This is the disconnect and the source of our grief today. It isn’t a political defeat that we’re lamenting, it’s a defeat for Humanity.

We’re not angry that our candidate lost. We’re angry because our candidate’s losing means this country will be less safe, less kind, and less available to a huge segment of its population, and that’s just the truth.

Those who have always felt vulnerable are now left more so. Those whose voices have been silenced will be further quieted. Those who always felt marginalized will be pushed further to the periphery. Those who feared they were seen as inferior now have confirmation in actual percentages.

Those things have essentially been campaign promises of Donald Trump, and so many of our fellow citizens have said this is what they want too.  

This has never been about politics.
This is not about one candidate over the other.

It’s not about one’s ideas over another’s.
It is not blue vs. red.
It’s not her emails vs. his bad language.
It’s not her dishonesty vs. his 

It’s about overt racism and hostility toward minorities.
It’s about religion being weaponized.
It’s about crassness and vulgarity and disregard for women.
It’s about a barricaded, militarized, bully nation.
It’s about an unapologetic, open-faced ugliness.

And it is not only that these things have been ratified by our nation that grieve us; all this hatred, fear, racism, bigotry, and intolerance—it’s knowing that these things have been amen-ed by our neighbors, our families, our friends, those we work with and worship alongside. That is the most horrific thing of all. We now know how close this is.

It feels like living in enemy territory being here now, and there’s no way around that. We wake up today in a home we no longer recognize. We are grieving the loss of a place we used to love but no longer do. This may be America today but it is not the America we believe in or recognize or want.

This is not about a difference of political opinion, as that’s far too small to mourn over. It’s about a fundamental difference in how we view the worth of all people—not just those who look or talk or think or vote the way we do.

Grief always laments what might have been, the future we were robbed of, the tomorrow that we won’t get to see, and that is what we walk through today. As a nation we had an opportunity to affirm the beauty of our diversity this day, to choose ideas over sound bytes, to let everyone know they had a place at the table, to be the beacon of goodness and decency we imagine that we are—and we said no.

The Scriptures say that weeping endures for a night but joy comes in the morning. We can’t see that dawn coming any time soon.

And this is why we grieve.


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2,108 thoughts on “Here’s Why We Grieve Today

  1. Here’s the deal-we had a choice between two candidates. One that is a liar and traitor (sold arms to ISIS) plus lied about emails, and did not care about 4 soldiers that died–PLUS there is a lot more! (Wikileaks) AND the other candidate who is/was less than ideal also. I think that most of Clinton followers had their blinders on. Friends of mine who are Christian stated this “At least Trump has demonstrated that he is teachable.” And that Jesus’s disciples were not perfect either. Please note that most of the violence –that has been perpetrated has been by the Clinton following –Also-I think this election is about creating divisiveness and FEAR when you can create both fear and divisiveness among a population you can control them. The news is ALL about fear and divisiveness. Summing up -Both groups need to take a look at why we/they are all choosing the divisiveness and fear and take our power back as citizens and move forward unified.

  2. If you want to look at Trumps economic plan and think its a good idea check out the state of Kansas right now and think again.

    • Yes, absolutely.

      The governor of Kansas should have known that your can not get roaring success by cutting taxes that are already incredibly low and a tiny portion of the toal tax bill that people must pay, in a tiny state with a tiny economy that swims in a big pond competing with other states that are subsidizing the crap out of everything and going bankrupt fast.

      BTW there is lot wrong with Trumps economic plan – part of which is that it is NOT the same as that of Kansas.

      But one of the biggest things Trumps plan has going for it, is that it will actually be hard to do worse than Obama – though Clintons plan was actually worse.

      I expect very little from Trump.
      I expect him to screw up.
      I expect he will be a bad president.

      I still expect he will be better than either Obama or Clinton.

      And that is what the majority of americans thought on Nov. 8.

      • Actually, this is very much about abortion, and the butchery of innocent lives, and this is about to stop. No country that kills its own children have any future.

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  9. The vast majority of comments here show that people missed your point. Even though you made it clear that this is about how unsafe this country is now, as a result of the election, and not about the election itself, very few if any of the commenters have addressed or challenged your statement. Instead, they have argued back and forth as if the election issues still are relevant, discussing why one candidate was better or worse than the other. That is all water under the bridge at this point. Unless the recount or the Electoral College come up with some awfully unlikely surprises, the fact is that we now have a President who wants to victimize the weak, the ill, the elderly, the young, the marginalized, the LGBTQ, the most vulnerable. He wants to victimize the environment at a critical time. If he gets his way, it could be impossible to recover from the damage he could cause to the long term living conditions in the USA and on the planet. He proposes mass deportations that could only be carried out using concentration camps, because there is no room in any prisons for the millions of people he wants to get rid of. I suppose it is more comfortable for people to continue saying “but.. but.. but… Hillary did THIS or THAT” but I don’t see where anyone has given you a valid reason not to grieve; I think many have just given you more reason to grieve. A nation’s greatness is not judged by how it treats the most privileged citizens. A nation’s greatness is judged by how it treats all its citizens, especially the most vulnerable. In one day, this country has gone from a beacon of freedom to a fascist state. The poem on the pedestal of the Statue of Liberty says, in part, “…Give me your tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, The wretched refuse of your teeming shore, Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me, I lift my lamp beside the golden door.” Now an addendum will need to be added: “But I just mean white rich Christians, and this torch will burn everyone else if you dare try to move in.”

    • No we did not “miss the point” – the point is WRONG.

      The country is not any more “unsafe” as a consequence of this election than it would have been had Clinton be elected. At best there is a small difference in which people would be the victims of bad government.

      Overall were are more safe today than yesterday – not because Trump was elected, not because of government at all. But because that has been the trend since Man first walked erect. Rates of violence today are a bit more than half what they were 40 years ago.

      More importantly government has had little part in that improvement.

      Your assertion about victimizing the weak is WHY so many oppose you and why you are wrong. There is no right to success, no right to respect, no right to dignity, these must be earned. Our freedom is the means by which we earn those. Freedom is not always pretty, but it is essential. Your ideology presumes as rights these and many other things that are not rights, that not only must be earned – but that even when earned – may still not be given. The “most vulnerable” are entitled to what they can achieve on their own – no more. Anything beyond that is charity. You have converted our desire to do what we can to help others into demands and entitlements by those who want help.

      Separately you fail to grasp that the panolopoly of your demands and entitlements is only possible because those you curse have produced and therefore provided the wealth to make possible fulfilling your demands.

      Emma Lazurus’s huddled masses “yearn to breath free” they do not yearn to be coddled and supported.

    • Personally I beleive in open borders, but freedom – including the freedom to come to this country can not co-exist with entitlement. So long as the left insists that all of us are entitled to some minimum standard of living that some of us MUST produce, we must restrict the freedom that would make that demand unsustainable.

      Regardless, your argument is innumerate and illogical.
      If we are deporting people we are NOT imprisoning them, or placing them in concentration camps.
      We are removing them from the country, not storing them at our expense. We are not sending them to hell we are sending them back to their homes.

      I beleive we should not do so because it is to OUR advantage to allow them in.

      Frankly, I beleive they have as much right to be here as those who by accident of place of birth are citizens.

      But they have no right to:
      A job,
      A living wage,
      A minimum wage,
      Health care,
      or any of the myriads of other entitlements the left has created.
      Immigrants have no right to those things.
      Citizens have no right to those things.

      Because there can not be a right to something that demands that others produce to sustain it.

      The purpose of government is to secure our liberty, everything else we must provide for ourselves.
      We may and should choose as individuals to help “the most vulnerable”, but that is an individual moral obligation – it neither is nor can be an obligation of government.

      Only government is obligated to treat us equally, and that by definition means government may not give to one what requires taking from another.

      Individually we are NOT obligated to treat each other equally. I am not entitled to your friendship, your respect. I am not entitled to a job from you. I am not entitled to trade with you. The cooperation of others is not a right or entitlement.

      You on the left do not understand that. You do not understand that whether you like it or not the world does not and CAN NOT work that way.

      I have not defended Donald Trump. I do not like Trump – but I do not like you either.
      Regardless, this election was inevitable, because the ideology of entitlement is unsustainable. Either we recognize that and change course or we fail.

      We are MORE safe today, not less.

      • “Regardless, your argument is innumerate and illogical.
        If we are deporting people we are NOT imprisoning them, or placing them in concentration camps.”

        A remarkable example of the Dunning-Kruger effect. It really isn’t very hard to understand “He proposes mass deportations that could only be carried out using concentration camps, because there is no room in any prisons for the millions of people he wants to get rid of” … unless you’re a libertarian, who thinks that deporting 11 million people is like wishing them into the cornfield with your mind.

        “We are removing them from the country, not storing them at our expense.”

        Typical of the sick libertarian, who has no understanding of economics. If you want to see people “stored” at our expense, look at Melania Trump and Paris Hilton and the rest of the idle rich, not the 11 million hard-working folk that Trump wants to eliminate, destroying farming and other industries in the process.

        “We are not sending them to hell we are sending them back to their homes.”

        Tell that to Guadalupe García de Rayos, who was deported after living here for 21 years, sicko libertarian.

  10. So sad you actually built a wall of exaggerations and a well of untruths to fall into. And after what you accuse voters of and your racist theories you have a lot of nerve to sum it up in a quote from The Scripture! Go back to your little fantasy world.

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  18. Hmm, I must have missed this article.

    I have said before that the average christian has not been paying attention to the christian right and regularly denied that the christian right would ever have enough power to implement their horrendous agenda for the country. I’ve been saying this for the past 15 years at least but people still didn’t take the christian right seriously.

    Now they have the power they have waited decades for, and those that voted for Trump, who thought they would never have a chance to bring about their agenda will now find out just how ignorance affects an entire country including trump voters evangelical and otherwise

    If you think the christian right would never have voted for a liar as bad as Trump then you underestimated their lust for power and dominance big time. If that liar needed the christian right in order to win, he was more than willing to cheat and lie and bet on the gullibility of the average evangelical voter, he would happily sing their praises to benefit his own lust for power and money, knowing full well supporters would tolerate literally any kind of dark behavior if it meant furthering the agenda of the christian right.

    The christian right took trump over the finish line with a rather large contribution from outside the country.

    To see this is the truth one only has to look at who Trump placed in his cabinet, all christian right, all christian right agenda.

    Enjoy, people, this is what happens when voters vote with their emotions rather than their heads and this is what happens when the public is ignorant of government and the years of christian influence and propaganda. I’m old, Trump/ Pence can’t hurt me at this point, but I feel sorry for the younger generation who will be stuck with horrific policies set by the religious right for years to come.

    I wouldn’t wait for trump voters to wake up because the majority of them would prefer a theocracy over freedom. their idea of freedom is not what most of use know as freedom, for them it’s freedom to dominate the country and the world. Let’s hope it is not too late already to get involved and try to prevent their worst instincts.

    Donald Trump, the Religious Right’s Trojan Horse

    You didn’t really think Trump was running this administration did you? The biggest gift to the christian right was Trump’s own ego and his need for adulation, and his complete ignorance of the world around him. If trump screws up they have their main man as a back up, PENCE.

    Pence is the quite guy with the agenda from hell. His history will tell you all you need to know about his own agenda.

    One can also hope that the average christian will finally wake up to what the christian right is doing in their name as well. Good luck, you are going to need it.

  19. Even more true today (August 14, 2017) than when it was written, because what we knew would happen has happened. And it’s just getting started.

  20. Months later- with the Economy booming, and more jobs created than in years…and Isis being disabled….. not to mention the ADDITIONAL scandals that have been discovered about the Clintons – I can’t see why there’s a need for “grieving!” Was Hilary really going to be the answer? Was that party really about “love and understanding?” I mean, come on.
    Trump may not parce words, but he has never said anything against blacks, gays or any specific group. He just calls it as he sees it….rather than be a “phony” and then leave us with ALL kinds or problems. Trump has been advocating for the hard-working person of many colors, the American who has had to shoulder the burden for years.
    ** And I feel like that whole article was manipulative; I’ve actually seen it TWICE with pictures of TWO different older ladies crying….I’m thinking those tears were being shed for reasons totally unrelated.
    “Grieving”? Try losing several good friends in the course of only 2 years to cancer, seeing your dear spouse’s health go downhill from Crohn’s at only 53, see your elderly parents slip away, see many different tragedies of accident and illness while serving as a health care provider. To the Author of this Article : I sincerely hope that in your lifetime, you NEVER have to see the REAL grief some of us face. I also have a feeling that a lot of those out there who are young and innocent have been misled for too many formative years by the false ideas of media.

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