Save Your Safety Pins, White Friends. You Could Have Voted Safety.


Save your safety pins.

If you’re a white person and you voted for Donald Trump, it’s a little too late to pretend you’re a safe space for people of color, for Muslims, for the LGBTQ community, for immigrants, for women. You had a chance to be that. You had a chance to make your country that.

Now is not the time to profess concern for the well-being of those in marginalized communities. That was what the election was about. That was your opportunity to speak and you spoke, and regardless of what you say now, your vote was the loudest and most powerful declaration you could have made.

There were no secrets in this campaign. It was all out there for everyone to see. The candidates were household names with track records and well documented resumes and a massive body of work on which to make a decision—and you decided.

And so for whatever reasons you had for choosing the President-Elect, you also chose not to make violence toward minorities a deal breaker. You declared that whatever bigotry and misogyny and anti-Semitism gained traction and legitimacy in our Government with a Trump Administration, all constituted acceptable loses. Whatever your religious convictions or your economic priorities or your stance on the social issues you hold dear (all of which may be valid), you were also willing to live with collateral damage to those who are already the most vulnerable—and you now have to live with that.

As Donald Trump’s cabinet becomes populated by those who occupied the most extreme fringes of the Right, marginalized communities and those who sought to protect them with their votes, are getting more and more confirmation that our fears were well founded. And if you voted for Trump or you abstained from voting, no amount of office supplies will make it okay.

Safety pins aren’t going protect gay people’s right to marry.
Safety pins aren’t going to give the sick and the poor access to 
Safety pins aren’t going to make it easier for sexual assault victims to step forward.
Safety pins aren’t going to fix the way voter i.d. laws are silencing already quieted voices.
Safety pins aren’t going to keep Christian extremists from the Supreme Court.

Safety pins aren’t going to shield those with brown skin and headwraps from profiling and violation.
Safety pins aren’t going to ensure women autonomy regarding their own bodies.
Safety pins aren’t going to elevate balanced voices to the Senate and the House.

Safety pins aren’t going to give young black men confidence in law enforcement.
Safety pins aren’t going to discourage hate crimes in schools and against affirming churches and in the streets.

So while the idea of safety pin feels like a noble gesture, it is ironically a safe one.

It’s a low-cost way for white people who held their noses and consented to an open bigotry from a Presidential campaign, the likes of which we’ve never seen—to now feel better about themselves. It’s a self-administered emotional balm for the guilt they now carry for the blind spot of privilege. Adding a safety pin to their lapels or social media profile becomes a temporary hallucinogen that tells them everything is now balanced and equal, that their vote is less damaging.

Sadly that’s not how this works.

I’m glad that there are expressions of hope and compassion and decency rising up now in a really painful time for our nation, but I suspect that those really burdened with the suffering of marginalized communities were already safe spaces before, and will continue to be in a day or so when the memes disappear and the momentary social media high wears off. People around us already feel seen and heard and loved.

Those of use for whom discrimination and bigotry are deal breakers, will continue to work and speak and minister and live openly for equality. We will be working for legislation that encourages diversity and protects the vulnerable, and when we have the chance to choose elected officials we will speak loudly again. We will continue to create workplaces and churches and schools and streets that are safe for everyone. If you want to be a part of that, then you won’t need to advertise it, you’ll simply do it—and we will welcome you in this work.

And yes, we will post and wear safety pins because we have tried to be safety pins and because people need to know that we are still here. But we also know that these pins are not enough.

But right now, if you’re a white person who voted for Donald Trump, save your safety pins.

You could have made people feel safe right now.

You could have voted their safety.

Make America safe again.


277 thoughts on “Save Your Safety Pins, White Friends. You Could Have Voted Safety.

  1. As a white female who did NOT vote for Trump, the safety pin on my shirt is a small gesture, I grant you, of my willingness to stand with those who are being victimized. I mean it as a symbol that I am trying to look out for my brothers and sisters who have been threatened by our president-elect’s comments and his supporters. No, I can’t do too much here in rural Arizona, but my little pin at least is an open message that I do not go along with the ideas the majority seems to have deemed acceptable. It’s not much – but it’s something. And I can stand up and speak about these things, and work against them.

    • I agree with you Hope. I can’t do much more in lily white Indiana, but I can let people know that I care, that I do not endorse nor condone racism or marginalizing of people.

      • I don’t believe in gimmicks.

        But I will continue to serve God by helping street people with food, housing, friendship. [Some are gay, some are transgender, most are ‘ethnic minorities’. ]

        I will ask them… ‘How are you being treated by the Christians here in the community, –do you feel threatened by a Trump presidency?’

        I will report back.

        • John, you have single-handedly destroyed the intent of the symbol, the SAFETY PIN, that HRC voters chose to identify ourselves to marginalized people to help them recognize a person to turn to if they are accosted outside the safety of their one home. We who chose to wear this symbol are of ALL colors and include the marginalized themselves, wearing a symbol that could put us in danger’s way, also, if a person would want to read us a lesson about helping the marginalized. I am asking you to rescind and apologize for your Safety Pin tirade and after prayerful thought, write a new post giving the correct origin and use of this symbol. This is a disappointment I can’t begin to verbalize.

            • SharonB Actually I know many white people who voted for Trump and wear the safety pin who actually do care about and defend the marginalized. I also know many who voted for Hillary and wear the safety pin who could care less about the marginalized, they just want the recognition. There are good and bad on both sides of the isle; it just happens that the bad on each side is getting most of the attention from each side.

              • “any white people who voted for Trump and wear the safety pin who actually do care about and defend the marginalized.”

                An oxymoron. If they cared about and defend the marginalized then they would not have voted for those that persecute them.

              • Wow! Really?

                I was intending to write a comment saying that I can’t imagine there is a single Trump voter that would wear a pin.

                But apparently there are, which actually explains how he won. I had always thought that his message would only appeal to a fairly small fraction of the nation — I was so wrong.

                But if in fact there are even a few people ( and that’s all it took to tip the balance) that profess to care about the marginalized in our country enough to wear a pin that still voted for Trump is even more disheartening.

                Why? Lower taxes? You think he’s going to bring good paying union manufacturing jobs back? Ha!

                And the rest of his message was all xenophobia.

                John is right — you have no excuse.

        • You know Joe if you would use fewer pejorative words that are the vocabulary of the bully and more words of the concerned citizen, people might not automatically dismiss what you have to say.

          Had to be said. Once and done.

    • I was looking to post the same thing as you Hope. I am in Boston and share your thoughts exactly.

      I am actually very surprised to read this John – I appreciate your sentiments and your willingness to say stuff that needs to be said, but I am rather bamboozled that you showed no compassion at all about this initiative. There are a lot of people who are scared and not sure how to handle what is going on in our country — I think wearing a safety pin to let them know a compassionate person is in their midst is a very small and kind act. I almost want to say ‘shame on you” for losing sight of this as I admire you for your humanitarian compassion and open objectivity – that seems missing in this post. Actually, I do want to say it.

      Shame on you John.

      • Why shame him for speaking the truth? This is info from two of the sources that would know;

        two LGBT suicide prevention hotlines have seen a spike in calls after Trump was elected president. Trans Lifeline is seeing call volume of at least five times its normal rate, and the Trevor Project has, according to Mother Jones, “received more calls, texts, and online chats on Wednesday than it’s gotten on a single day in four years, more than double its normal daily volume.”

        “We started getting increased call volume at about 10 p.m. on election night, and it hasn’t slowed down at all,” said Gretta Martela, director of Trans Hotline, on Thursday afternoon. “In fact, it’s on the rise still.” The hotline receives about 100 calls a day normally. In the 24 hours prior to speaking with Mother Jones, Martela said it had received 523 calls.

        Callers expressed fear that many of the gains in LGBT rights made under the Obama administration—like access to trans-related health care—will be lost under Trump, Martela said. Medical experts have said that access to appropriate hormones and other treatments for gender dysphoria can be essential to a transgender person’s physical and mental health. “The Republicans are looking to repeal Obamacare,” Martela said. “So a lot of people are looking at losing their health care coverage.”

        …Steve Mendelsohn, deputy executive director of the Trevor Project, said queer youth who contacted his hotline shared similar concerns. “Ninety-five percent of them tell us that they’re worried about the election results,” he said. “And they’re telling us that they’re feeling anxious and scared…They talk about things that came up during the election campaign. So a fear that perhaps gay marriage will be reversed. Or that conversion therapy will be promoted. Or that their insurance might be taken away.” The Trevor Project is training many more volunteers to help field the increasing volume of calls, Mendelsohn said.

        These are stressful times for many people in the LGBT community. If you need to talk to someone, you can contact Trans Lifeline at 877-565-8860, or the Trevor Project at 866-488-7386

        Personal comment: Are you wearing a safety pin in case one of these precious young people happens to run into you? Life is hard enough for these kids and it isn’t getting easer.

    • Agreed–and pinning on my shirt every day reminds me of my commitment for these troubled times. I haven’t heard of Trump voters wearing the safety pins though.

      • I thought John’s post was confusing vis a vis which side was wearing the safety pins and why? I am a big news junky, and this was the first time I had ever heard of this safety pin symbol. Would anyone like to explain this symbol, its use, and its meaning better than Jon P. did? I think he just assumed that everyone knew what it was when they really did not.

        • Charles, I daresay that someone has already answered this. I don’t know how/where/when this safety pin thing started bit I suspect social media.

          Here is a good article to google:
          So You Want to Wear a Safety Pin

        • It started in the UK after the Brexit vote last June. The Brexiteers (Britain First – like the KKK/Alt-right) were bullying women wearing hijab on the subways and trains. The safety pin was (is) a silent signal that says “you can sit next to me- I am safe”. It also was a reminder to the wearer to not stand idly by bit to defuse or intervene if someone was being harassed. I was visiting England when Brexit happened last June and saw the success of the safety pin movement there – and a Brit friend of mine warned me that Brexit and the folks like Britain Firsters and their brand of isolationist toxicity could happen to the USA too. And it has !

    • Love and togetherness are the answer! The Democrats, Republicans, Media, and big business is to blame. The left, right, gays, whites, Asians, Italians, Greeks, Young, Old, Educated, Non-educated, Religious, Blacks, Hispanics, and any other way you can separate us is there plan. We are strong together not separate. They know that and we are all being duped. While we are fighting there stealing billions of dollars from all of us and laughing at how stupid we are. Check into both sides there all rich from are money. Both sides take money from Wall Street. Wake up we need to stick together. Hating each other is not getting us anywhere. Most Americans are open-minded about a lot of things. However, we don’t like being forced to accept things we don’t agree with. Did you ever wonder why the left that doesn’t care about marriage? Has pushed gay marriage. They want to separate us. America is founded on immigration. It is who we are but not illegal immigration. Politicians want us to believe we’re not loving if we don’t accept illegals in this country. That is a lie. If you don’t believe me go into Mexico or Canada Illegally you will be arrested. They don’t let anyone in without their approval. But you are being told we are the mean ones. That is a bunch of bull. Hillary Clinton believed in open borders. Leaving anybody into our country that could have diseases like TB and many other things that could kill your love ones. Leaving Muslims in that hate gays. If you don’t, believe me, please do some research. In this country, you might be worried about gay marriage but in other countries, you have to be worried about being stoned to death. There is a big difference. Women in Saudi Arabia can’t drive. Your husband can beat you at will. We’re not perfect in this country but we are many times better than any other country in the world. Blacks have the highest income level in America than any country in the world. What I love about all of us as Americans we try to do better. Don’t buy into the Media’s propaganda, Democrats, Republicans, and big business. We’re all better than that! Donald Trump took pictures holding up LGBT flag. He is not a politician that looks you in the face and lies. He is a businessman that never was in politics. Let’s all pray he does a good job. He wants the best for all of us! Open your heart and send love to him. Pray he does a good job for all of us together. I always felt as Americans we give anyone a chance. One more thing before you believe the media, please please do your own research. Love you all!

    • I agree with you. I will wear my pin, and I’ll live up to the concept of it.
      Because I’m East Coast and able to get there, I will be marching in Washington on Jan. 21st. I did vote for the best candidate to represent a better life for everyone, not just those residing in the lofty financial pigeonholes of millionaires and billionaires. ALL people need to be fed, educated, have access to healthcare, practice (or not practice) the religion of their choice and women have every right to control their own bodies and choices. For 200 years we have proven abundantly that white lives matter, now we need to prove that black lives are just as valued and respected. How is this revolutionary? It has been the hallmark of our formerly forward-moving country. As we are being cast into a tide turned back on itself, I’ll continue to resist, giving as much respect to Trump as was accorded to Obama by those that opposed him at every turn.

  2. While I agree with the sentiment, I don’t agree that wearing safety pins is a pathetic guilt-shedding symbol. I wear my safety pin, and will even if you think I’m a jerk for doing so. I didn’t vote for Trump. I reject everything he stands for and everything he has legitimized. I wear this pin because if you need to use the bathroom and are afraid to, you can ask me to go with you. If you need someone to sit with on the train, here I am. If you need someone to literally stand between you and a raging bully, my lilly-white self is more than happy to get between you and them. I don’t wear it for you, Mr. Pavlovitz, nor do I wear it for me. I wear it for all of us. It’s a symbol that I am here, I am safe, and I am willing to do whatever it is you need me to do to help you. Even if that means shutting up and waiting for you to tell me what you need because I would be a poor, poor ally if I went ahead and assumed you needed something from you that you did not. So, white people, wear your pins, but wear them for others and not yourself.

    • He is only talking about whites who voted trump, then hypocritically don a pin to assauage their guilt. If you voted againt trump, proudly wear your pin, which is consistent with your vote.

        • Really? Are we going to fight amongst ourselves? It’s a BEAUTIFUL post and it made me cry. If the title makes someone read it — all the better. It’s quite clear that he is talking to the Trump voters who are consistently saying they are not racist, he didn’t mean it, don’t worry — nothing will really happen, etc., etc. I AM going to wear a safety pin. I live in a white lower income neighborhood and surrounded by Trump signs everywhere. I want the people of color and of different sexual orientation to know they are not alone – even here. And there’s nothing in this post that would discourage me from doing that.

      • That was the confusing part to me; didn’t feel that point was made in the opinion piece. I am a white man who did NOT support Donald Dumpster and will only wear ONE T-shirt in public for the near future: “Don’t Trump America,” which was designed by Usher to raise money for education a few months back. I will proudly wear a safety pin on the shirt so folks know that I am a safe ally, especially since I live in the most conservative county in California!

        • My condolences on living in the most conservative County in CA. I think you live in the county just north of me. I’m in San Diego.

          Love the teeshirt.

      • It isn’t about politics. Please get that straight. It is about action: being an obvious place fort those in need to ask for help when they aren’t in the safety of their own surroundings.

      • Well said, Joe. The tone of the “Preacher’s” piece is condescending. Why are people living in fear? Did they contribute to their own fear? Are they listening to voices that promote fear? No one needs to wear a safety pin. What a gimmick! Who we are speaks so loud that others know what we are all about. Did you care about others before you went to your pity party?
        Man sees the outside, but God sees the heart.

    • Thank you, Bonita.

      I am a black woman in Tx so when I see a white person wearing a safety pin, it makes me feel good that there’s a person who empathizes and ‘gets’ it. Being in Tx, unfortunately the odds of the whites here being republican are very high so we’re looking for those pins to identify decent, like minded folks. Again, thank you.

  3. I was so thankful for this site… Until you turned it political. Stereotyping and prejudices are the things you have fought against….And now, you seem to be representing the same. Humility and checking yourself at the door would be a good idea, don’t you think? Lumping everyone in one basket is stereotyping. Having a belief about them is prejudiced. Folks could be more Anti -Hillary than pro Trump. They could be voting because they want change vs more of the same. And, they could be voting because they are Pro Trump. Learn to separate the Anti-Hillary voters from the Pro Trump ones and then you may be able to write about your prejudices…. Maybe….


    • No, being “anti-Hillary” to the point where Trump was acceptable means toy deserve every bit of criticism you’re trying to deflect. Because Trump’s racism, sexism, and violent rhetoric wasn’t a deal-breaker for you. You threw women, minorities, and the LGBTQ community under the bus.

      • 100% agreed, Traci. I’ve offered lots of evidence on this blog and asked the “anti-Hillary” folk to read it, but they did not. They were so enamored of their prejudice that they dared not risk the proof that their prejudice is founded in lies they have been systematically taught.

    • Me to, he is promoting division between people on this post and many others as of late. its sad isn’t it.. I think he is hateful and rude and has lost any of that Jesus love hes always claiming to have.. So glad he is not the youth leader my children grew up under. And I bet God is as embarrassed by his claim to be a Christian as I am

      • Angela, I agree with you. John P seems to be getting shriller & shriller. I find it hard to read all bold-face type. It’s like being shouted at.

        Nevertheless, I remain interested in the Progressive/Emergent Christian Movement, that’s why I read his posts.

      • No. What he is saying—just in case you ever want to stop and actually listen: “Regardless of whether Hillary Clinton ever existed, Donald Trump’s character and behavior are incompatible with Jesus Christ, Christianity, Following Jesus, or whatever you want to call it. You had a choice between being true to Jesus or being true to Donald Trump—and you chose Trump over Jesus.”

          • The question has to be raised. Which party platform was truest to Jesus? Which platform wanted to feed the hungry, clothe the naked, care for the sick, and provide for those in need?

            Which party platform wants to take away all of that?

            What I feel is a mistake when we vote for President is that we somehow think we are voting for a person, rather than the entire platform.

            Once the various oaths of office are sworn in January, democracy is in effect dead in the USA because the system of checks and balances was voted out by everyone who voted Republican.

            The hungry will starve to death, the naked will freeze to death, the sick will die, and those in need will watch their sole source of income, Social Security, gambled away on the stock exchange.

            A massive recession will follow the implementation of the same economic policies that caused the Great Depression and the recessions of the Reagan and various Bush years.

            Jobs will be lost, banks will foreclose on homes, people will be living in their cars if they have them, on the streets if they don’t.

            But, whew, at least Hillary wasn’t elected.

        • Well said, Charles.

          Inhumane results will follow after all the oaths of offices have been sworn.

          People who voted for the evil that is Trump and the Republican national party platform voted to do active harm on everyone in the USA who is not a rich, straight, white male.

          Maybe people didn’t like Hillary but that is no excuse for rejecting the Democratic national party platform which is compassionate, empathetic, and concerned with makign things better for all USians, not just rich, straight, white males.

  4. I don’t know any Trump voter who has put on a safety pin. I do know that many safety pin wearers are being challenged on it for a number of reasons (“if you wear it, you need to be prepared to fight physically” for example.)

    I am one of the marginalized, because I am a woman. I wear a safety pin, and I have received the encouragement of seeing others wear theirs. It communicates to me “I am here. I see you. I honor you as a person.” I don’t expect them to protect me physically. But they are saving my life emotionally and spiritually, and that is worth a lot. I plan to have it on pinned through my glittery patriotic ribbon.

      • Cathy, Joe and people who voted Republican voted for a party that believes when a woman is raped she should just lie back and enjoy it. They voted for a party that believes violence against women is justified by the Bible.

        Joe and many others are here solely to be trolls. I find it is best to ignore them.

      • Exactly. He seems to know so much about being a woman, black/brown, gay. So sick of this type. So busy running their mouths that they can’t be bother to actually listen. Ugh.

  5. Aren’t the safety pins going to be worn by people who agree with you? It seems pretty obvious that a venn diagram of Trump voters and safety pin wearers would be two circles that don’t overlap. The premise of this blog post is nonsensical.

  6. I will wear a safety pin. I voted for Hillary, and canvassed for her. And now, after reading (couldn’t bring myself to watch) the plans for undocumented immigrants in January 2017, we, The Dominican Sisters Conference, will prepare a Public Statement on this issue.

    And, as Catholic sisters have been doing across this country for years, we will continue to stand with our undocumented sisters and brothers, as well as others who have no voice. We will continue to take our bodies to stand with our sisters and brothers at Standing Rock. We will continue to speak out against injustice.

    • Really? Are we going to fight amongst ourselves? It’s a BEAUTIFUL post and it made me cry. If the title makes someone read it — all the better. It’s quite clear that he is talking to the Trump voters who are consistently saying they are not racist, he didn’t mean it, don’t worry — nothing will really happen, etc., etc. I AM going to wear a safety pin. I live in a white lower income neighborhood and surrounded by Trump signs everywhere. I want the people of color and of different sexual orientation to know they are not alone – even here. And there’s nothing in this post that would discourage me from doing that.


  7. Well, I beg too disagree with the bottom line conclusion you are making. I agree that it is rank hypocrisy for a Trump voter to be wearing a safety at this juncture, post-election. But I’m a White, gay Hillary supporter who now feels very threatened by the election of Trump. And I know that there are millions of marginalized people in this country who feel the same. Therefore I am wearing a safety pin to express solidarity with those who , like me, are feeling just how precarious our safety and well-being are as we move into the future of this new administration. And I want to be a safe person and provide safe haven for those people, as I hope they will do for me. I think the pins are a valuabe outward and visible sign of a profound spiritual desire to be in unity with others.

    • I felt unsafe when Obama called the Ft Hood jihadist, ‘work place violence’. (instead of jihad).

      I felt unsafe when Obama traded 5 Islamic Terrorists (now free to kill Americans again) for one army deserter. ..and all the other Jihadists in Gitmo he released back into the field.

      I felt unsafe when Obama/Hillary went after a Christian videographer [& jailed him], instead of Ambassador Stevens’ murderer who ‘hid’ in plain site at the local cafe.

      I feel unsafe when I drive/walk thru my community that has many illegal gang members, & violent drug users/dealers.

      etc., etc.

      • The thing you fail to recognize is that your own lack of caring is the reason for their gang membership, drug use, and drug dealing. Where were you when their mom was not taking good care of them. You could have been a Big Brother or Big Sister. The problem with people like you is that you would rather condemn them to Hell than intervene to prevent tragedy. Yeah!!! I’m talking to you Leslie. Knock. Knock. Jesus at your front door!!!

  8. I wore my safety pin to church yesterday and also posted an explanation of it on my Facebook page. I gave several people a safety pin who asked about it. It is interesting that I have gotten several likes and comments on my FB page, but NONE from people who I know support trump. Does this mean they disagree with the stated purpose of the safety pin? I am afraid so. Admittedly, I have personal reasons for supporting the idea. Several gay family members, an African American grandson whom I adore, two Hispanic granddaughters who are the lights of my life. Huffington Post said yesterday that it was embarrassing for people to wear safety pins. Not for me, it isn’t.

  9. So if persons of color who voted for Trump (and, yeah, there were quite a few of them, apparently) are now having regrets, will you let them wear a pin? Or will you call them out, too, albeit separately.

    Getting rather tired of the “white people” finger-pointing, as if only this race can be bigoted, unfair, and wrong. You do get that it’s this sort of thing, and all of the divisive speech that marginalize people and set community against community, that helped set the stage for Trump, right?

    Personally, I find wearing safety pins, various colored ribbons and such silly and pointless, but that’s just me. However, your incessant racist invectives are troubling. Want to call out bad behavior or whatever, go for it. But But it’s the behavior and actions that are problematic. We choose those, not our skin tone.

    • I am trying to understand your point but I don’t. I’m white, middle class. And I KNOW for a fact that my life has been easier because of it. NOT easy — I grew up in the “working poor” category and there have been alot of challenges along the way but I also know that if I had been black — those same challenges would have be even more significant. Why does someone else pointing that out sound like racial invective to you? I am not guilty that I’m white or I had those opportunities — just sad that other’s didn’t and think they should. I really really don’t understand why that’s a problem.

      • I’ve traveled the world (& have lived in different countries). Newsflash. In 2016, unfortunately, EVERYONE is racist. It’s called People Groups. [Some countries worse than others.] Hands down , USA, is least racist category.

        In Asia, blacks are considered sub-human. In Japan, they teach the children, that Blacks come from the jungle (you know what I mean) .
        Every people group has its own prejudices against those not in their group. Yes, blacks are racist too, so are asians, whites, arabs, hispanics, etc.

        I think this hyper-focus on ‘race’ is harmful. Now we’ve got everyone looking at each other’s skin color, 24/7. It’s making everyone uneasy, AND a nervous wreck. Let’s stop.

        • Leslie. Racism is wrong and evil. That is the bottom line. Racism in all its forms is Anti-Christ—no matter how you shake it. John P. is opposed to it. I am opposed to it. Every other decent human being is opposed to it. You do not fight something evil by pretending it does not exist.

  10. The people who voted for Trump *aren’t* the people wearing safety pins.

    I am white, male, gay, and feel threat for both myself and others, including undocumented people I know and care about. God bless.

    • You’d think so right? But sadly – there’s now more and more people who DID vote for him who are saying they did it in SPITE of the things he said and as a result, they will wear safety pins to let people know they are safe with them. I think that is what this post is really addressing. The fact that people of color or different sexual orientation wouldn’t need a “safe harbor” if they hadn’t voted as they did seems to be lost on them.

      • “The fact that people of color or different sexual orientation wouldn’t need a “safe harbor” if they hadn’t voted as they did seems to be lost on them.”

        It would be, wouldn’t it? So many of us tried to tell people of the evil they embraced when they voted Republican but they closed their minds and their hearts to reason and compassion.

        • Why are you constantly whining about the ‘unborn’? Women have been terminating unwanted pregnancies for centuries and will continue to do so and there’s nothing that YOU or anyone else can do about it. IF you were truly pro life you would be willing to do anything to stop unwanted pregnancies. Male sterilization would do that and even do away with the abomination of rape babies but it’s funny you haven’t suggested that as an alternative. You want to control someone’s reproductive rights? Let’s start with yours.

          • Frances Bell, he (and a few others who post here) has an unhealthy and unnatural obsession with abortion which he drags into every post, regardless of what John P wrote about.

            He and a few others are here only to be trolls. You can recognize them by the way they start their comments with some form of “John P, you are nasty to write this” only they are not that polite.

            • Yuck. Is there a mute or block feature? I just found this site and was thrilled when I read the article as finally there’s a Christian that gets it. Usually the so called Christians are like that Joe guy. No wonder people are opting not to go to church.

              • I cannot tell you, Frances, how much I long for that block button such as we have on Facebook.

                The only thing I can do is delete, unread, their responses when I see it in my email.

                While I am convinced you will figure out who are the safe people here, if you want you may friend me on FB and we could discuss it in PMs.

                Yes, John P’s voice is a welcome one that is counter-cultural to institutionalized American Christianity, the Religious Right, who doesn’t understand that the church is separate from the state in the USA , who don’t understand the First Amendment, and who turn their backs on their neighbors.

                I welcome you and your voice. Thank you for joining us.

  11. I am a gay white male who did not vote for Trump and I wore my safety pin to church yesterday.

    Many seem to have not read John accurately. He didn’t say anything negative about wearing a safety pin unless you were/are a Trump supporter So don’t get your knickers in a twist until you re-read his post.

    As for the complaint about John being “political” you might want to read about Jesus. Being political is what got him crucified. We are all free to have our own religious beliefs….at least for now But to say that religion and faith and politics do not have a legitimate intersection is absurd. Faith communities should be on side of the marginalized….protecting them.

    If you truly follow Jesus you will not be able to find anything in His ministry that allows you to denigrate people because of race, creed, gender, sexual orientation or any of the other adjectives we use to objectify. Ask the Samaritan woman Jesus spoke to at the well. Quite a few religious boundaries were broken that day. Too bad we don’t have that kind of courage.

    • I adopted the #safetypin as have many of my friends, none of whom are Trump supporters. I agree that the Venn diagram doesn’t overlap based on what I’ve seen, but I also agree that it would be hypocritical for a Trump supporter to now claim that the safety of others was a priority.

    • “If you truly follow Jesus you will not be able to find anything in His ministry that allows you to denigrate people because of race, creed, gender, sexual orientation or any of the other adjectives we use to objectify.” THANK YOU, BRUCE.

      • Joe,
        Your delusions fascinate me. I’m white, and John doesn’t denigrate me….he affirms who I am as a Christian. I started to post that I am Christian too, but guess that is a bit redundant!

        Us white folks SHOULD feel shame and guilt. We have done a lot to deserve it. Why we can’t own our racism and seek to address it continues to baffle me. I’m sorry if you are offended when you get called out for being a bigot. The best way to address that would seem to stop being a bigot.

        John is doing God’s work and he suffers what most suffer for the sake of the Gospel…..we should do more to emulate him.

        • Hate to pop your bubble Joe, but you are racist. You are also a beneficiary of white (male) privilege. Rather than whine all the time do something productive to better humanity.

          • “Race is the classification of humans into groups based on physical traits, ancestry, genetics or social relations

            If you categorize people into races rather than understanding we are one people- the human race- then you are creating barriers which lead to racism such as a preference of one race over another or a stereotyping of groups or thinking one group is superior to the other in specific ways. Original race classification began with anthropologists .

    • A border wall/fence will save thousands and thousands of lives, and cut way back on child/sex & human-slave trade. That is worth my tax dollar money.

      $25 billion, is a small price to pay, to protect those precious lives of hispanics.

      Mexico will quickly adjust, and start helping her own people. They have the resources.

      That value is priceless! A win/win for both countries. And Mexico will thank us for it. Our relations will improve immensely.

      • You are an English fool if you think Mexico is going to take care of its poor and homeless. The Patrons own all the wealth in the country—and they would gladly die before giving up even a penny of it to the poor and homeless peasants who exist to serve them.

      • I am sorry to be one to tell you this, Cathy, but that is exactly what Joe Catholic in his many disguises here does in fact believe.

        He has an unhealthy and, even, unnatural obsession with abortion. It is his red herring that he drags into every single conversation. That is the main way to recognize his many pseudonyms,

  12. Honestly I hadn’t even heard of the safety pin trend yet, so I’m glad to know about it. I didn’t vote for DJT either, and while his attitudes are bad enough, what has been even more upsetting for me is the fact that so many liked him, and agreed with him enough to elect him President. It has made me heartsick. And worried….. one of my concerns being that, though I am not a physically imposing or intimidating looking person, I have been concerned that because I am white, the people DJT has abused so ferociously will see me and be afraid I’m going to say or do something horrible to them. If wearing a safety pin will let some stranger know Trump does not speak for me and they need not worry, I will gladly wear one. And if anyone would need my help I’d be glad to give it.
    I’m very glad to know about this, and glad to know people are doing something visible to say “Trump does not speak for me”. I do agree our chance was at the voting booth, and I will forever be grieved so many people didn’t take that chance to keep Trump out of the Presidency. But it is done. All I can do now is deal with it. If a little safety pin helps at all, then I’m in.

  13. I really hate the idea that a symbol used by people that did Stand with our vote is being co-opted by the side that refused to in service to their concerns for their selfish and myopic needs.

  14. Why the infighting? Why criticizing the folks who are trying to take whatever steps at our disposal to fight the fear mongering? I love what you say most of the time, but continuing to rant at the Christians who voted for Trump and criticize the efforts of anyone trying to uplift and create safe space for the fearful and marginalized is NOT helping the cause. You’re continuing the divide –not inspiring us to pull together and love, upbuild, and counter the hatred and evil. And what’s wrong with a Safety Pin as a “sign” that someone is safe, can be trusted? How is that different from rainbow banners and triangles and Christian fish that have been used for centuries to send a signal? It doesn’t mean that’s ALL we’re going to do. In my little, white, isolated community, it’s a great way to get people thinking about how to reach out, how to be aware of the pain of others. It’s a GOOD thing. One small step…..

  15. John, as usual you are off base. Safety? Not for all. Hillary had declared war on the unborn. You were not safe in the womb with her. And, if you are a real (Biblical) Christian that supports real marriage, you would have been her target. I’m disgusted by the hypocrisy of people like you that think you are “liberal”. You are not. Just another bigot.

  16. John,
    I for one find the safety pin an important symbol for anyone who wants to declare a desire to be a safe person for others. Slamming people who have used this as a way of focusing in a positive way diminishes and shames rather than builds hope and understanding. Let’s quit playing the blame game.

    • I don’t have any safety pins at my house. But, I will wear a smile, make eye contact, say something nice. (which has worked for many millennium).

  17. … it’s where I go to feel bad, guilty, and ashamed at being white.

    Have enjoyed most of your posts for a long time… not so much anymore.

    • And why do you feel that way? Nobody can make you feel anything that does not resonate with something within you. Yes, there are times when I am ashamed of being white. It has nothing to do with John but with atrocities committed against non-whites, based on skin color and privilege….

      • Not necessarily. He can be guilt-free himself while still feeling the resonance on others’ behalf. You can no doubt think of instances where you feel guilty even when you have nothing to feel guilty for. For example, it seems to me that Police personnel all over the world have the uncanny gift of making people feel guilty just by their presence!

      • Gab, I’ll be honest. I see a lot of projection on this list when people blame John P for their feelings.

        John P exhorts Christians to be true followers of Jesus and he speaks with a prophetic voice. As has everyone else who speaks with a prophetic voice he holds a mirror in front of us. Those of us who dislike what we see in the mirror have two choices. We can either thank God that our sins are revealed to us and repent or we can lash out at John P because we don’t like how we feel about ourselves when we read what he has written.

        The first response is the Holy Spirit illumining our minds and softening our hearts. The second is to close one’s mind to the Holy Spirit.

        That is always the way it is with people who speak with a prophetic voice. The witness of the Hebrew Scriptures, the New Testament, the great spiritual writers throughout Church History bear this out.

        • [John P is not a prophet.]

          But he is well on his way of denouncing every aspect of his former faith in Jesus Christ. [All his posts clearly point to that.]

          When he makes his last & final break from Jesus (to Neo-paganism), he will then be clear of the ‘False Prophet’ identity. He may gain in popularity & become successful, like Rob Bell, and Brian McClaren [but maybe not, as that field is too crowded already.]

          • Jesus said – “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division.” Luke 12:51

            Paul incited the gentiles – “They brought them before the magistrates and said, “These men are Jews, and are throwing our city into an uproar,by advocating customs unlawful for us Romans to accept or practice.” Acts 16:20,21

            Moses wrote – “On that day the Book of Moses was read aloud in the hearing of the people and there it was found written that no Ammonite or Moabite should ever be admitted into the assembly of God, because they had not met the Israelites with food and water but had hired Balaam to call a curse down on them….” Nehemiah 13:1,2

            David wrote – “Happy is the one who seizes your infants and dashes them against the rocks.” Psalm 137:9

            When you look at the whole Bible and all the prophets and look at Jesus you can see human weakness in God’s chosen and the call Jesus gives to challenge the status quo.

            • Kathy, love what you wrote.

              I wonder if you can tell me how anyone can read the entire Bible and fail to notice exactly how confrontational that prophets of the Hebrew Scriptures were? Personally, I think they were very much in people’s faces.

              Confrontation is divisive, I think, by its very definition. However, it is not necessarily a bad thing. Confronting injustice is something all Christians are called to do. Loving our neighbors as ourselves can be confrontational to those who seek excuses to get out of obeying that commandment.

              If people only want the warm fuzzies of the consolations of religion not only will they remain spiritually immature, but they will also eventually lose their faith because it is not based on God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit but upon their own feelings.

              This is why I welcome the challenges that John P presents to us. He asks us the hard questions that the warm fuzzies would obscure.

              • Yes, and and prophets, teachers, laymen, ministers, and pew sitters make mistakes. One thing I find appalling in christianity (whose hallmark is grace and forgiveness), is how little self refection many who call themselves christians have.

                We can do better with more humility.

                • There was a time when self-reflection was an integral part of daily Christian practice. Various Christian teachers taught it from the Desert Christians, Benedict, Ignatius, Teresa of Avila, Evelyn Underhill, Madeline L’Engle, Kenneth Leech, Richard Foster, etc I could list names all day.

                  There seems to have been a gap for a goodly number of decades, but I have observed a pronounced increase in the number of spiritual directors. Here in San Diego the demand outpaces the supply.

                  We even have a course in it at a university down the hill from me, but alas, the cost.

  18. Someone above said it: The safety pin is not about me or you, it is about the “others”. I am (mostly) white, straight, tall, professional, female and can be intimidating as heck. 🙂 I attended a party of clients of mine this past Saturday and as my clients are gay, naturally a good portion of their attending friends were too. I got to talk to several of them and one had tears in his eyes when I told him about how there is a safety (pin) net for them that they could count on if they were harassed, ostracized or attacked in any form. I am prepared to protect those who need it most right now. It is not a form of back-patting self-service. And I am not a Voldemort supporter. (Cannot bring myself to say his name, sorry.) I understand you wrote this article mainly for the Voldemort supporters who think wearing a safety pin balances the choice they made at the voting poll and I have to wholeheartedly agree with you on that: It does not, is pure hypocrisy and 200% self-serving.
    Those of us who voted against bigotry, hate, xenophobia and racism will extend our vote into real life and shine our lights brightly to make the roaches go back into their filthy, unholy holes… Love and reason don’t work alone in this case. It was the loud, passionate, vitriol-spewing sewage container that got the masses. We can be loud and passionate too, but civilly and intelligently so, when we speak up or stand up to defend those who need us in real life. Game on!

  19. I did not vote for Trump and I wore my pin on the airplane while traveling this weekend. I received a hug from a flight attendant and many smiles from people of all races. It is a reminder of me to be strong and support the “others” I don’t have any idea where you got the idea that Trump supporters would be wearing a pin. I love your writings but this one hurt as it seemed that you are mad at those trying to be a safe person and trying to do something. It might be small but you don’t know what else we are doing to help stand by the oppressed. So I’m wearing my pin in Texas and working hard to build bridges.

  20. John, I do not think you understand the point of the safety pin. It’s not like wearing pink to show support for cancer victims. It is a message to people who feel unsafe in the here and now that they can approach you for help.

    It’s a message that you will chat with someone on a bus with whom no one else will even make eye contact. It’s saying you will sit with them at a restaurant, you will walk them to class, and you will step between them and their harasser, even taking a blow that is meant for them if necessary.

    When I was a child, people put signs in the living room windows indicating a safe house — a place where children who were accosted on the street could go for help.

    The safety pin is that safe house.

    P. S. I DID vote for safety.

  21. I don’t think the safety pin message is bad, but I saw something more personal. A gay friend of mine posted a letter she received which was hand delivered to her house by a neighbor. It read…
    Dear Neighbors,
    After reading about the attacks on Americans that were fueled by the outcome of the presidential election, Name & name want our neighbors to know that our hearts are broken for our neighbors who do not identify as white, Christian, straight, native-born, etc. We want you to know that we are proud to call you our neighbors and we are here for you if you need us.
    We are praying for the healing of our country and our world.
    God bless you!

  22. John P., I find this post of yours quite confusing.

    The people I know who have adopted the safety pins are the same people who did all they could to prevent the haters from being elected.

    If there are some who voted for a third party or the haters who have adopted the safety pin, maybe it is because they now repent of the evil they have done.

    Those among the USian voters who understand what it means to love neighbor as one’s self did not vote for the haters. We are the one’s wearing the safety pins.

    I hope tomorrow you write a blog which clarifies this.

    • Voting for Trump was not evil.
      Judging others . . . ?
      What motivates your thoughts, words, and actions?
      Examine yourself. Let him who is NOT guilty cast the first stone.

      • Is it judgemental to state a fact or merely an exercise of judgment?

        People did not only vote for Trump, they voted for Republicans and their evil party platform. Its evil is revealed by the fact that most, if not all, Republican politicians avow they are Christians.

        Which of itself raises the question do they value the words of Jesus? Their platform indicates they do not believe in feeding the hungry, clothing the naked, caring for the sick, and providing for those unable to provide for themselves.

        Christians who turn their backs on Jesus… what is more evil than that? It’s is not I who say it but Jesus. Matthew 25: 31-46 is straightforward.

  23. I’m not sure why all the confusion about this post. If I read it correctly, to paraphrase John was basically speaking to the people who voted for Trump and are now wearing their safety pins. He’s speaking to the Trump voters and supporters who now are saying they disagree with the violence and hatred but are willing to wear pins…that if they hadn’t VOTED FOR TRUMP IN THE FIRST PLACE we would not be in this mess. At least that’s how I interpreted it….

    • Or perhaps because voting for a self-proclaimed savior, xenophobe, bigot, racist and hatred-inciting man defies any understanding of “reason and compassion”…? Calling someone a “sore loser” as if it were some kind of sporting event to lose to lack of humanity and decency, to name a couple basic traits, shows that you don’t understand how we ALL lost. Try to look at what is happening in this country from the outside. I invite you to read up on what the world thinks and where they think we lost or lost it. We, the great nation that we are, lost the respect of the world.

    • That makes more sense, Kim B. Thanks. I admit, it never occurred to me that anyone who voted for Trump would either be so deep in denial or have the unmitigated gall to wear a safety pin.

      The lack of reason and compassion I have seen displayed here on this blog by those who voted Republican or third party has boggled my mind. The so-called Trump effect was resulting in heinous acts well before the election. People who voted for Trump at the very least implicitly voted for cruelty and hatred. Some voted explicitly for it.

      Whether or not a person sees themselves as a bigot, that is what they voted for when they voted Republican. Denial is not just a river in Egypt and all their projection of blame onto John P, me, you, or anyone else will not change the fact that they knowingly voted for evil. And turned their backs on good.

      The evidence has been clear from the get-go that a vote for the Republicans is a vote for white privilege and white privilege harms everyone who is not white and straight. White privilege is an evil and a sin from which white Christians must repent. This will not be accomplished by wearing the safety pin.

  24. I get where you’re coming from – I’m British and although Trump is not my President-Elect, I still didn’t want him in.

    But please remember that the stuff of accusation, condemnation, guilt and shame are the things of the enemy, not of Christ. And such is what I am reading on your blog today, and it makes me sad, because although we don’t know each other, I do know that you are better than this.

    Trump is President-Elect. I want to say this gently, but you need to get over it. I’m glad you’ve expressed some ideas about how people can make a difference (no matter which way they voted) but this is the way things are. Condemning people – and reading things into their votes – is not the way forward. The granularity of the democratic system – two candidates, neither of which is particularly desirable – is, and has to be, so much more than a decision based on how you said, “And so for whatever reasons you had for choosing the President-Elect, you also chose not to make violence toward minorities a deal breaker”. There is, for each person, so much more than that in choosing whom to vote for. You simpy cannot read into the intentions of over 50 million of your fellow Americans and make such a sweeping statement, and expect us to agree with it.

    Please return to your better, more edifying blogging. I know this subject is on your heart at the moment, but I don’t think it’s really building anyone up, do you? This is why I don’t think it’s at your kind of blogging level. You are better than this. That said, it’s your blog, and you can write whatever you want of course. But please try to consider the reasons why you write what you do, and the effect it has on your audience.

    • The obligation to speak up

      Abba Anthony said: “The time is coming when people will be insane, and when they see someone who is not insane, they will attack that person saying: ‘You are insane because you are not like us.’”

      God speaks in many tongues and to every color and age of people. It is not ours to decide where God’s favor lies. But it is ours to see as a spiritual task the obligation to come to our own opinions. We are not to buy thought cheaply. We are not to attach ourselves to someone else’s decisions like pilot fish and simply go with the crowd. We are meant to be thinking Christians.

      Religious persecution of blacks and Irish and Protestants and women and gays and Muslims, just because it is the tenor of the time, is to our eternal shame. To make these things acts of faith, which we have over time, all of us and each of us, is the greatest infidelity to our Creator God. It is the very kind of rejection that ranged against Jesus. He was a Galilean. And he had the gall to speak up for Canaanites and lepers and women and Samaritans and the poor and the stranger in the land. He refused to bow to the social pressure that comes with being “other.” So they cast him out of the pale of his religion; or, like Nicodemus, snuck in to see him only at night; or in the square called, “Crucify him, crucify him, crucify him!”

      And Jesus left to all of us the obligation to speak up on issues that threaten to erode our humanity. To speak out for the innocent and oppressed. To speak on, however long it takes and whatever the pressures ranged against us. To speak up when we hear around us the strategies of those who would balance the national budget by denying the hungry food stamps, and children good education, and the unemployed and underpaid decent lives, and the In God’s Holy Light by Joan Chittisterstrangers in the land a way to become community.

      Our obligation is not to be like those who would secure themselves by making others insecure. Our obligation is to be like Jesus. And that is anything but insane.

      —from In God’s Holy Light: Wisdom from the Desert Monastics by Joan Chittister (Franciscan Media). Also available as Audio Book.

  25. I didn’t throw anyone under the bus, people see what they want to see and CHOOSE to ignore what they want to ignore. Not voting for HRC was about honesty, transparency and trust. It was about changing the shrinking middle class and wanting our borders safe. It was about respecting LAW and order vs chaos. It was about biased media intentionally lying to Americans. Its about reducing taxes for small businesses vs political folks with self interests lining their pockets. Your sole focus on the things that he said (which I do not support) and not about her actions remain short sighted. Big picture vs fragments of what you choose to focus on and ignore keeps you in the name calling and degradating responses you continue to portray.

  26. I don’t understand why you wouldn’t want someone who voted for Trump to understand that they should (at least attempt) to be a safe place for people who are hurting. I know that people are afraid, angry, disenfranchised. I know that there are people who will begin to understand (if we let them, if we can talk without screaming, if we can be the voice for people who need us to share their pain because they are in too much pain to do it without screaming). What are THEY supposed to do once THEY begin to see all the pain that we want them to see? The pain that THEY were blind to before? Castigate themselves in the street? Put themselves in stockades and ashes and sackcloth? If my beloved family members who voted for Trump began to wear a safety pin because they truly understood how scared and afraid someone else was…and they are committed to moving forward in love and forgiveness…..they I think they should wear an extra specially sparkly safety pin. This anger and hurt is real (and not new). It’s not going to go anywhere until we can build bridges. And those bridges will take years to build. I’m ok with anyone wearing a safety pin….regardless of how they voted…so long as they actually support what it means.

    • Beth, you wrote, “I don’t understand why you wouldn’t want someone who voted for Trump to understand that they should (at least attempt) to be a safe place for people who are hurting.”

      It’s quite simple. If people want to be a safe place for hurting people, then they ought not to have voted for those who encourage the hurting.

      To don the safety pin is hypocritical.

  27. John, my guess is that those who voted for Trump aren’t wearing safety pins. I’ve been reading their Facebook entries, talking about how those who protest and wear safety pins need to “get a grip” and “get over it.” And those are the nice statements, by “friends.” The safety pin may seem a small thing, and rather powerless; yet the Gospel itself is powerless as well – God’s powerlessness against evil, which he overcomes only by dying, taking on our evil, and overcoming it with love. That is what the pins represent – our love and care for those who are being, and will be, oppressed. So, in this way, it is more important than that cross that so many wear around their necks, which has become more a symbol of privelege and oppression than one of hope and discipleship.

  28. Another outstanding post, John. Obviously the safety pin idea was intended for people who did “vote safety” but I am not surprised that Trump supporters are trying to co-opt it and hide their guilt behind it.

    My only quibble: Make America Safe Again would be a good slogan if America had been safe before this election. It wasn’t. Some of us knew that, some didn’t. Now it is out in the open.

    I will keep working with all sincere people of faith to make America Safe For the First Time by continuing to work for inclusive justice in spite of the intolerance and hate being celebrated today by Trump supporters.

    I am wearing a safety pin too. And a black star. #BlackStarResistance

    • Leslie, you wrote “I will keep working with all sincere people of faith to make America Safe For the First Time by continuing to work for inclusive justice in spite of the intolerance and hate being celebrated today by Trump supporters.”

      YES! Amen!

      “I am wearing a safety pin too. And a black star. #BlackStarResistance.” Oh dear, I fear my white privilege might be showing because this is something I did not know about. I must google it.

      Ah. I have googled it and I see I need to use my safety pin to hold my black star in place. Thank you for bringing this to my attention.

      The article I read is: Wear a Black Star: #BlackStarResistance

  29. At church on Sunday, my sermon included a long list of the terror that has been inflicted on vulnerable populations since Wednesday. Long, long list. With pauses for silence between each incident. And Some of the Trump voters in my congregation were stunned. Three in tears. I don’t know how they could have had no idea how horrible their vote was, but somehow, they allowed themselves to get caught up in the frenzy of fear and hate. In the church service, the stark reality of what they had done started to sink in. And I talked about how they might think those vile incidents across the country had nothing to do with them, but, actually they have everything to do with them, and with me, and with everyone who ever followed Jesus. We need repentance for bringing this hatred upon ourselves.. I told them that wearing the safety pinand living Doha stands for — like donating to causes that protect people being persecuted–is a way for them to redeem themselves. As Christians, we need to seek means of grace for people who actively engage in sin, and not just flog them with condemnation.

    • People fell for the shell game and lost track of the ball. But God is good and people are voicing their opinion and resisting the call to join him. LA Police Chief Charlie Beck say he will not cooperate with any deportations efforts by Trump’s administration.

      • Trump seems to think there is 2 – 3 million immigrant criminals in the US? Wow how does Trump know that?

        I think the LA Police Chief Charlie Beck knows better what Trump is up to. It’s called discrimination.

        • No surprise, but Trump is quite the hypocrite on the subject of illegal immigrants considering how many he has employed now and in the past.

          For those who wish information, please google:
          Donald Trump Thinks American Workers Aren’t Good Enough for the Trump Organization

          Read more at:

          Please google:
          What Donald Trump Knew About Undocumented Workers at His Signature Tower

          Please google:

          At Trump hotel site, immigrant workers wary

          From the Pulitzer Prive winner, please google:

          At Trump hotel site, immigrant workers wary

          These articles are merely the tip of the iceberg of the great many which prove that Trump is a hypocrite.

        • We have to consider the real costs, economic and otherwise about deporting illegal immigrants. According to the evidence it would quite irresponsible.

          For those who wish information, please google:
          Trump’s deportation plan could slice 2 percent off U.S. GDP: study

          Please google:

          Please google:
          Donald Trump’s deportation plan would be an economic nightmare

          Please google:
          The Conservative Case Against Enforcing Immigration Law

  30. I have to go back to my original statements. People choose what they see and what they ignore. Lumping all folks who vote for her in one category and assuming you KNEW that their reason for voting for HER was because of xyz….. It stereotyping. Having a belief about it is prejudiced…. Check yourself at the door if you are doing any of these things. The question to ask is not why did she lose? But why did he win? What about her did folks NOT want?

  31. I’ll be wearing my Safety pin as well. And I don’t think John was speaking to those of us who did not vote for “he who shall not be named”. It’s a small thing but many of us need something we can do RIGHT NOW to let our communities know where we stand… In the months to some, as the democrat and progressive political communities reorganize there will be plenty of work for all.

    I value this community and John’s efforts and wisdom so very much!

  32. Dear Mr.Pavolovitz,

    I am so grateful to have come across your writings as they give me great comfort in the God of humanity. Perhaps also I share the same faith and outlook on life. I notice you write most to the White Christians. …or is it just White Voter? Because I have noticed my Indian Christian and other race Christians also supported the rise of Trump. It boggles my mind as they continue to flaunt Christianity associated with his rise.

    • Dear Smitha,

      Welcome. Glad to have you here. While I am not John P and can’t really speak to him, there are two reasons, why I believe he addresses white Christians. I think the first reason is a gesture of humility that he addresses white Christians because he himself is a white Christian and he knows he doesn’t have the life experience of non-white Christians and so he cannot write knowledgeably about that. There have been too many white Christians who have written in condescending and patronizing terms of those who are non-white Christians.

      A second reason is that while it is certainly true, and I am just as surprised as you, that non-whites for some unfathomable reason voted for Trump, the demographic analysis of the voters indicates that Trump and all those other Republicans were elected by white people. They were the largest demographic.

      I hope this helps.

  33. I’ve been reading your blogs and I have enjoyed everything you have said. I’d like to clarify one point I may have missed in this one. I was torn about the safety pin as a possible empty gesture. I read your blog about it perhaps being such, and then decided to not wear it. But then, on the post where a person had shared your blog, a dear friend who is a person of color, and another person whom I did not know who identified as a Muslim; said that when entering a room for a meeting or some other civic type event that might be full of strangers, seeing someone with the pin gave them comfort. To at least know there is somebody. I’ll continue to wear mine and if asked “Why are you wearing a safety pin?” my answer will be “Because I’m an art teacher and they sometimes come in handy.” Anyone who should need to know why I’m wearing one, will.

    Thank you for your lovely writings.

  34. Selected quotes from:

    What Now?
    I’m not a liberal. I’m not a safe space, social crusader. I’m not a sore loser who can’t get over the fact that Hillary Clinton wasn’t elected president. The notion that I had to put what lukewarm support I had for a candidate behind her was a source of great frustration for me. I am, at my very core, someone with conservative foundations. I believe that men and women, whenever possible, should be free to live their lives without government intervention. My family and my Christian faith are the center of my life. I like my guns. Chances are, I’m better than you at using them. I’ve worked with and for the toughest most dangerous men on the planet-men you’ve read books about, men you’ve seen movies about. I’ll never claim to be one. But I’ve proven myself useful in their presence. I share this with you so you understand where and who the message I’m about to deliver comes from.

    “… the ultimate choice that was made, the one people will remember a hundred years from now, was a willingness to ignore personal decency and fair treatment towards people who are different in service to that [desire for] change…
    “… I won’t tell you that you are a racist or a bigot if you voted for Donald Trump. I won’t even tell you that you personally are indecent. But … what you showed us with his nomination and your vote in the election, is that you can’t be trusted to [govern] without us.
    “Many of my devout conservative friends were remarkably quiet when their candidate trashed their personal values … made inexcusable first hand remarks about minorities, women and disabled Americans … when the dark forces of white supremacists aligned themselves in support of their candidate. I understand why. You couldn’t live with the alternative. So you rationalized out of fear that speaking up would enable it. Well, that risk is gone now. You avoided the end you couldn’t live with. That excuse is gone. And now it’s fair to say that tolerance of that behavior from here on can only be seen as an endorsement of it. So when there’s a KKK rally in North Carolina to celebrate the election of the candidate you support, you no longer have any excuse not to condemn it with the same uncompromising vigor that you condemned Hillary. Let’s see the memes. Let’s see the Facebook posts. Let’s see the outrage.
    “… we won’t trust you to look out for our fellow Americans who are different. So get ready for four years of vocal, loud, peaceful I pray, dissent…
    “If insistence on decent treatment of all Americans makes me a liberal in the eyes of conservatives, then maybe we should take some time to reflect on who our modern conservatives actually are. The world is watching.”

  35. “In the early hours of Nov. 9, 2016, the winner of the presidential election was declared. As the day unfolded,… All around were the unmistakable signs of normalization in progress. So many were falling into line without being pushed. It was happening at tremendous speed, like a contagion. And it was catching even those whose plan was, like Dudard’s in ‘Rhinoceros,’ to criticize ‘from the inside.’

    “Evil settles into everyday life when people are unable or unwilling to recognize it. It makes its home among us when we are keen to minimize it or describe it as something else. This is not a process that began a week or month or year ago. It did not begin with drone assassinations, or with the war on Iraq. Evil has always been here. But now it has taken on a totalitarian tone.

    “At the end of ‘Rhinoceros,’ Daisy finds the call of the herd irresistible. Her skin goes green, she develops a horn, she’s gone. Berenger, imperfect, all alone, is racked by doubts. He is determined to keep his humanity, but looking in the mirror, he suddenly finds himself quite strange. He feels like a monster for being so out of step with the consensus. He is afraid of what this independence will cost him. But he keeps his resolve, and refuses to accept the horrible new normalcy. He’ll put up a fight, he says. ‘I’m not capitulating!'”

    For the rest of the article please google:
    A Time for Refusal

  36. Here’s the conclusion I’ve reached: not all Trump supporters may be authoritarian, bigots, discriminators, fascists, gynophobes, homophobes, intolerant of anyone different, misogynists, racists, sexist, sexual assaulters and molesters, rapists, transgenderphobic, white supremacists, and xenophobes.

    But all of them decided these were not a deal breaker.

    End of story.

  37. Like it or not Trump voters, the people’s majority voted for Hillz. The greatly flawed and archaic electoral college allowed this backslide into darkness.

    I taught my children early on that they were not only American citizens, but citizens of our planet. That they had brothers and sisters not from these shores. And I am proud that they are loving and inclusive.

    Jesus in was crucified because he was all-inclusive. Tax collectors, whores, Sumeritans, sinners from all walks of life enjoyed the gift His Love. It defines my Christianity.

    We should be fountains, not drains. The President-elect is a drain.

    • Except “Hillz” didn’t get a majority. The majority of voters preferred someone else. No one got a majority.

      And why is the electoral college flawed and archaic? It was designed to prevent large, populous states from running roughshod over the smaller, less populated ones. It worked exactly as it was designed to. Someone winning the popular vote but losing in the electoral college is a feature, not a glitch. It works on the same principal as the filibuster, which prevents simple majority rule. I’d imagine everyone who screamed for the entire Obama administration that the filibuster was an affront to democracy is about to suddenly become a huge supporter.

    • Perhaps you can explain – “the greatly flawed and archaic electoral college”.
      You may want to begin with Article II, Section I of the Constitution.
      Or perhaps, you can explain the difference between a democracy and a constitutional republic.

  38. I think you were a bit too harsh with this post. Maybe a bit of stereotyping going on here.

    But it’s your blog.

    Personally, I decided to vote my conscience and not vote. I didn’t want either of these folks in the job.

    I have no plans to wear any safety pins or put any on my profile. To me it’s all just a silly social media gimmick that will peter out in a few days.

    But I will continue to stand with the marginalized, persecuted, and scapegoated, no matter who they are (Trump supporters, too).

    Oppression and stereotyping are wrong, on BOTH sides of this issue.

  39. I’m a Bernie/ hillary supporter. I believe that policy based in love and peace is the way. Call me a sap…I support nodapl…and I wore a safety pin.

  40. Most of my conclusions were drawn from “th Donald’s” own cruel, bombastic and incredulous tweets, not the liberal media. His ignorance of the Bible is so evident. So is his egomania.

    • Trump did not win the election because of his coarse verbiage.. he won it in spite of it.

      Hillary lost because most Americans don’t want the kind of country that she would give us. When I say ‘most’, I don’t mean per capita. I mean, looking at our 3,030 counties in USA, less than 300 counties total, voted for Hillary.

      (that’s why it would not be fair to get rid of the electoral college. Most of America is Conservative. The city people represent a disproportionate type of thought, radical left, liberal, progressive, anarchist , social welfare/ govt heavy type citizen.)

  41. Rick, I appreciate your comments here. And agree with them. Sorry the trolls have gone for you. But maybe you don’t mind.

  42. Another sweeping, simplistic judgement of a group people based on their gender, skin color and who they did or didn’t vote for. This is not the gospel of Jesus Christ John P. I’m so glad you are not God.

  43. Mr. Pavlovitz, Somewhere in all your whining you have forgotten that Hillary Clinton was the other candidate in this election. Perhaps this reminder will help you gain some much needed perspective. You really are acting quite juvenile. Frankly, it’s embarrassing to see someone of your age carrying on like this.

  44. Been thinking… something we are going to need a LOT of in the next while is Compassion.

    I know no one would be interested in doing this now, but after in the New Year, would anyone like to join me to read and discuss Karen Armstrong’s Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life? I could create an FB group or if that seems too unwieldy a good old-fashioned yahoogroups email group.

    Thinking we would read and I would post a question a day on a portion of the reading.

    Anyone interested?

    Book may be purchased from Amazon. Oddly, at least to me, the kindle version is more expensive than the paperback. Personally, I need to read this kind of book in a tree edition so I can underline, make margin notes, notes on the endpapers, etc.

  45. Stop spreading lies, John. You are huge part of the problem right now – if anyone actually reads this crap, that is. You haven’t done your research. This is sad and pathetic.

  46. John, you have single-handedly destroyed the intent of the symbol, the SAFETY PIN, that HRC voters chose to identify ourselves to marginalized people to help them recognize a person to turn to if they are accosted outside the safety of their one home. We who chose to wear this symbol are of ALL colors and include the marginalized themselves, wearing a symbol that could put us in danger’s way, also, if a person would want to read us a lesson about helping the marginalized. I am asking you to rescind and apologize for your Safety Pin tirade and after prayerful thought, write a new post giving the correct origin and use of this symbol. This is a disappointment I can’t begin to verbalize.

  47. I don’t think he is hateful or rude….. That would be a judgement….. I think humility is a wonderful virtue that WE ALL should explore more. I shared my opinions and did my best my to make a personal judgement about any one person. C’mon now you guys….. No stereotyping or ‘prejudging.’ When we stop prejudging, we stop persuading….. My words

  48. I agree. Those who voted for Trump should not be wearing a safety pin now. They had the opportunity to do something positive for minorities with their vote.

    I voted for Hillary and am wearing my safety pin at all times. A safety pin in a sign of solidarity and of unity… but, It is also a pledge to be actively committed to diversity & inclusion, mutual respect & personal safety, and assist those in need.

    I live in a community where there are many Latino families, some legally here, some not. I teach them English. They are scared their families will be broken apart. I wear the safety pin to show them I stand with them and will do everything in my power to help them, which started with my vote.

    • Thank you, Jan M. Yes, exactly. Many of us are terrified. Solidarity with each other. If we are people who are not rich, straight, white males, then we are in jeopardy.

  49. I did not nor would not vote for Trump. Whether it was campaign rhetoric or not, his words unleashed and empowered hatred toward many considered “the least of these”. Contrary to what some like Joe Catholic believe, many like myself are working hand in hand with marginalised people. I’m wearing the safety pin to let others no it is safe to express their feelings , opinions to me, even if they voted for Mr Trump. I’m striving to love vet out my faith in the one who loved His life for all.

  50. To all who feel that Trump is pro-life: he is going to let the states decide if they want to be pro-life or outlaw abortion. If you have a car, you can get a legal abortion in the states that allow it. Sorry, Joe C. You lost.

    • Well, of course, Trump really isn’t against abortion. He wanted Marla to abort Tiffany. He paid for two women to have abortions.

      Don’t go screaming for evidence, those of you who are anti-abortion. I already provided it in another discussion and it was ignored then.

      As for having a car and access to a legal abortion… it depends how many states away, can the woman get off the time from work, will she have one to travel with her, etc. Leaving it up to the states is regressive.

  51. Where’s the feminist outcry and revulsion – “Rape Melania”…. the duplicity and hypocrisy is well….obvious.
    Not good enough – what about the “assassinate Trump” calls… and let’s not forget… “die whites die”.

    The hypnotized never lie – do you?

  52. Sirus. Hate is hate. No matter where it comes from. This election season has unleashed it. It’s unfortunate that mr trump displayed some the uncivil behaviour during the campaign. And no, that isn’t an interpretation of the liberal media. It was seen and heard without edit. The hatred toward trump you mentioned is individual -no less wrong. On the other spectrum the hatred has been spewed at groups of people. It behaves us all, and especially those in leadership to model civility and respect in out discourse. That said, my safety pin means I want any one who fears to find a safe place with me

    • David – that’s just fine.
      Wear a safety pin.
      I’m sure others will be gratified to know you choose to refrain from being mean, opinionated, judgmental, violent, duplicitous, angry, hateful or unnecessarily critical.
      Your “civility” is admirable and worth commending – yet, I quietly wonder, how do you manage walking on glass all day?

  53. I’m a white, female Christian. I love Jesus….that kind of Christian vs. a historical Christian, as I was earlier in my life. Even though I feel I no longer have a political party to align myself with, I voted Republican because of my passionate pro-life stand. I have friends from all walks of life and ethnicities. We love each other because of our love for Christ. It’s the bottom line. I feel safe with them. Just because you wear a safety pin certainly doesn’t make me feel safe after reading this article and a lot of these comments. It all makes me feel like I can only be accepted if I think as you do, never mind that Jesus is all about life.

    • I agree. Too often I let my anger take over when responding. I should take Christ’s message to heart more often. We are all imperfect. We should all forgive and seek forgiveness.

    • If you believe that Jesus is all about life, I don’t understand how you could vote for a candidate that is only in it for himself? Trump is not anti-abortion whatever lies he spouted in order to get elected. He wanted Marla Maples to have an abortion. He has paid for at least two women to have abortions. This is easily googled.

      Jesus is also all about loving God with every fiber of one’s being and loving one’s neighbor as one’s self. Voting for Republican is turning one’s back on one’s neighbor. And those babies you want to save, the Republicans don’t want to feed them, educate them, or provide them with medical care.

      Voting Republican is voting for is authoritarianism, bigotry, discrimination, fascism, gynophobia, homophobia, intolerance of anyone different, misogyny, racism, rape, sexism, sexual assault and molestation, transgenderphobia, white supremacy, and xenophobia.

  54. Deal-breaker? Hillary Clinton was The Deal-Breaker, folks.

    “I’m glad that there are expressions of hope and compassion and decency rising up now.”

    You should be. Hope, compassion and decency did win. The forces seeking to divide us failed. How you consistently fail to realize it was the people who have been marginalize, denied inclusion in your new, diverse society and effectively lied to for the past 8 years who voted for Trump. You had no compassion for them. Your offer of hope was lies. Your ideals of decency didn’t apply to them … so they finally rejected you and your candidate. Had the Democratic Party been honest stewards of the Work Class Trump COULD NOT HAVE WON. Sure, Trump didn’t win the popular vote. He missed that by 0.55% ~ hardly a mandate. How do you justify the Republicans controlling both the Senate and House as well? Sure, you call them racist, sexist, xenophobic bigots. They no longer care. Deal-breaker? They no longer bought into your ‘deal’. You ceased being the Party of compassion and decency. Your offers of hope were empty promises.

    “Those of use for whom discrimination and bigotry are deal breakers, will continue to work and speak and minister and live openly for equality.”

    Discrimination? Congrats. You’ve been discriminating against the White Working Class and they got sick of it, you college-educated elitist snobs. You stopped bothering to debate the issues, choosing to lecture them instead. How did that work out? Wait … I sense an utter lack of self-recrimination for your betrayal. For poor White men and women KNOWING they were better off voting for a White Billionaire Businessman over a White Millionaire Career Politician.

    Bigotry? Look in the mirror. You have been showering careless and persistent hate down on others and failed to appreciate the poisonous atmosphere you were brewing. You have reaped what you have sown.

    Speak openly? Honestly … you can print that? With the encroachment of PC-culture across college campuses nation-wide you dare bring up ‘speaking openly’. How many academics have lost their jobs over their attempt to defend Free Speech when it voiced uncomfortable opinions? The clearest results of this was exhibited in the pre-election polls ~ clearly may people were afraid to declare their support for Trump because they KNEW how rabid the attack dogs on the Left were. So, instead of being able to launch constructive debates on the various topics of concern, the Clinton campaign blithely waltzed into Tuesday thinking they had won the election. Whoops. You ~ the Left ~ have stifled debated and the wages of this sin is Trump.

    Live openly with equality … after Trump very publicly made his support for the LGBTQ community during his acceptance speech … because the Dems refused to separate the desire to respect existing American populations with every imaginable special interest group under the Sun. You refused to consider appreciating being an American citizen didn’t make one EVIL.

    Perhaps … just perhaps it could be acceptable to consider tackling ILLEGAL immigration and threats of UNACCOUNTABLE Muslim IMMIGRATION to the United States ~ the freaking process we expect people to take when entering our country to seek employment, an education and/or citizenship. How about acknowledging while the vast majority of illegal immigrants do not cause problems, any problems they do cause are extra problems we don’t need? How about acknowledging while the vast majority of Muslims immigrants are productive members of American Society, Radical Islam has resulted in the deaths of Americans in America ~ so it is a problem which needs to be examined, not buried in cries of “you are an Islamophobe!”

    If you believe in ‘Open Borders’, run on it. Don’t try to slip it in the back door. Apparently not everyone believes American’s economy is limitless and we cannot embrace everybody without the bottom falling out. My bet is the next Democratic contender won’t. Too many Americans still like to think they are ‘special’ and that citizenship matters.

    • I’m reporting back from seeing my street/homeless friends tonight. [my fundamentalist church, serves sit down dinner for 60 in a parking lot]

      …the dinner conversation (i started it) was ‘how do you feel about the election? are you feeling threatened by Trump in office?

      –Hispanic/transgender, 60, said: ‘I think we should give Trump a chance, and he’s already showing a
      different side to himself. I didn’t vote.’
      –White/female, 71, (few teeth) said: ‘I think God must have wanted him in office, otherwise it wouldn’t have happened.
      –White/female, 65, (few teeth) said: ‘I voted for Trump. He’s going to get the economy moving, and that will help all these families here.’
      –Hispanic/male, 23, (pot user) ‘I thought that we should have had a woman president. But, both candidates were horrible. I did not vote.’
      –Hispanic/male, 50, (schizophrenic) ‘I’m a lifelong Democrat. My biggest concern is that all the social programs that I am in will disappear. I voted for Hillary.’

      I told him I voted for Trump, and he expressed dismay at me. [We talked more about the social programs.] Then he said, ‘Oh no, it looks like rain tonight. I have to find a dry place, the warming station opens tomorrow, so I’ll only have 1 night outside.’

      [It might be interesting to know, that all of the above believe that the Bible is the inerrant Word of God, & they all have the joy of the Lord. ]

  55. I’m white and have been a Progressive Independent Liberal for many years. I have a gay trans son and Muslim friends that are very dear to me. I wear the safety pin proudly right next to my LGBT Ally button which I’ve worn for years. My son gave it to me. Please don’t accuse all whites of having voted for Trump. I voted for Bernie in our states open primary. Then I voted for Hillary in the Presidential election. I know many other white friends who have done the same, and are proudly wearing their safety pins to alert our large Yemeni population and LGBT students that we are here for them and will put our bodies between them and harm if necessary.

    • Dear Siddigfan,

      Although I cannot speak for John P, I believe he is not saying “all whites” but only “whites for voted for Republicans.”

      After all, they knew from the very beginning that Trump and the Republicans who have embraced that national party platform intend to do great evil.

      It’s hard to believe that the first black president will be replaced by a president endorsed by the evil KKK.

      It’s hard to believe that a first lady who was criticized for bare arms will be replaced by a woman with photos of her naked or near-naked are all over cyberspace.

      If white people voted for evil, then evil will result from their votes.

      My neighborhood is a little UN. We have refugees from all over the world living here in peace, harmony, good will, helping each other. My city will be the poorer if these people are deported. And if they are deported they will be murdered when they return home as they are mostly political refugees. As far as I can tell, the GOP doesn’t care if refugees are here legally or not, they just want them gone.

      I am wearing the hugest safety pin I can find on my tee shirt that says “Love Thy Neighbor” and then lists all the neighbors that white people who voted Republican have chosen to despise.

  56. Weird that we’re fighting about this, but whatever.

    I’ve asked my friends this: “What can I do to show support or be supportive?”

    They don’t have “the” answer, because they’re not experts at know what needs to be done.

    They’re expert at being themselves, and especially at ducking and hiding low when it’s necessary for survival.

    But for me, a privileged, happy straight Christian white man with little reason to fear anyone, I would hazard the following:

    1. Wear the pin or the shirt or whatever if it can help you show that you want to be helpful. You might fail to step out (and that has further problems), but it is a small step.
    2. Find people like you, who want to show support, and practice not only identifying issues and talking about what you would do, but actually do them, in practice. Example: play-act a scene on a bus where a Trump supporter attacks a Muslima for her hijab. How do you identify the attack? What do you do? Say? How does it differ if you’re big white man (like me) or a small woman?
    3. Actually reach out to your neighbors, co-workers, people in your community, and get to know them. Be bold. Say “Hey, you know, I don’t know much about you, and I’d like to just know more. Can we do coffee/beer/drinks/watch a movie/have tea?” And then just do that–just do the thing. Don’t proselytize, don’t say “I am so proud of you for being .” Don’t say “I’ll support you no matter what,” because, hey, you haven’t really tried yet and how can they know?
    4. Be vocal to your community about what you see as wrong, and what you see as right. It will likely change no one’s minds, but it will make you known. Do it consistently. Be the symbol.
    5. When there’s an opportunity to show up for support in a group setting, do what you can to show up and participate as an ally, not a speaker, and not someone to share your wisdom with those you are allied with. Let them talk and lead and organize. Be willing to be organized. Do not offer your opinion. Just do the work.
    6. If you learn something or have great insight, keep it to yourself until you know more. You might have a brilliant revelation on “what this all means.” Let your allies either find out for themselves, or spend some time listening to discover they already know it.

    Bonus: If you find that you disagree with John or you want to refute what he says–you are doing exactly what he wants: he is trying to make you think and evaluate and make up your own mind. If you’re not challenged by John, then he’s not doing his job. It should be hard to listen to the hard things. If it’s easy, then something’s wrong.

    And so I think it’s perfectly OK to wear the pin or the shirt or the button or the ribbon. It’s a signal. You want to do more.

    It is a long road to support the people you want to support. It will take many twisty paths. You might not even recognize the end point. And the people you want to support may never, ever thank you or recognize you because you made it the goal that it was not about you and your support, but about them as people and humans and neighbors who just need to know and experience what it is to be accepted and loved and even just left alone to live.

    These are only my recommendations, entirely self-centered and based on my own experiences, and what I’m working out.

    Our allies do not need our opinions. They just need us.

    • Thank you, thank you, thank you. Really. You, sir, get it. I have waited to read one comment that I can cling to. One iota of Christ-like thinking and feeling; you provided it. Well done. You transcend. Bless you. Everyone else back way from their keyboards.

    • I don’t find your suggestions self-centered at all, Stephen. I find them full of compassion, empathy, and fellow-feeling.

      One of the things that is apparent from the voters is how deeply afraid so many USians are of those who are different from themselves. White people who voted Republican have demonstrated how deeply they fear anyone who is not rich, straight, and white.

      OTOH, 50% of the USian voters have revealed the darkness that dwells within them and it is only when the light strikes the darkness, as it has with this election, can the light shatter the darkness.

      This country is in the death throes of the privileged white person. It can only get uglier and then those who know what it means to unconditionally love all people exactly as it delighted God to create them will prevail in our churches and in our election booths.

      Must admit, I was looking forward to the taco trucks on every corner.

      • I must admit, I’m not speaking from happiness. I am deeply saddened and grieved at the death of my religion’s values.

        My church/faith has carried me for 40+ years, and it has made me/transformed me.

        And so the shock of my church/faith fall to trumpery (good word!) is wearing off; now what I wear is grief and not anger.

        I cannot even tell you have deeply overwhelming it is to see my church/faith, my safe harbor, has become poison to me and has become the weapon used against my friends outside the faith who now need me as an ally though I still appear to be of the Trumpian Evangelical wing as I bear all the marks and know all the songs.

        Well, onward and upward. I didn’t choose the way because it was promised to be easy. I chose because it was promised to be true.

        • Dear Stephen,

          Without assuming I know anything about your church/faith, I will say that while I reeling from the vast number of hypocrites who embraced evil when they chose to vote Republican, my Christian faith is undiminished by the shameful behavior of those claiming to be my fellow Christians. Whether they are or are not is up to God.

          My faith is rooted in Jesus. Jesus never changes regardless of what we human do.

  57. I gotta go buy a safety pin and a black star somewhere today. They may be the “yellow star of David” on my future concentration camp uniform—but if so—so be it.

    • I printed my black star. Pinned it to a tee shirt. On my safety pin I slipped beads in rainbow colors. Trying to figure out what I can use to show solidarity with immigrants.

  58. Wow Sirius. It’s evident that you are angry and resentful about something. I am far from perfect. But I at least can strive to be better and be Gods instrument. I’m sorry for whatever it is that has brought you your pain

    • David, thank you for your concern.
      In return, you need not feel sorry for me or assume I harbor any ill will towards you. With respect, I do not need nor do I seek your forgiveness or acceptance.
      David – this is a blog – it’s a virtual reality. If you post, you should not be offended if someone see’s things differently and says so.
      With that, wearing a safety pin as a symbol won’t protect you or others from the feelings and opinions others may have. It’s what we do that that makes us who we are. Like your choice to be civil.

  59. Mr. Pavlovitz, would you ever consider a blog post about your theological beliefs? I think you have a great message, but I would be interested in knowing your personal theological beliefs and any scriptural references you might use to come to that conclusion. I’m genuinely curious and struggling a bit with my own. Thank you so much!

    • Blessings on your journey.

      I have found Christ to be solid, but puzzling. Solid, in that I am carried, even lifted, through the hardest times.

      Puzzling, in that so many who want him and want to call on him want even more their own pain of staying the same and choosing the same destructive actions.

      Someone shared this on my timeline. I found it useful:

      do not look for healing
      at the feet of those
      who broke you

      ~ rupi kaur

      I am on a journey to follow Christ. It is enormously satisfying and maddeningly difficult at the worst times. But while I am the chief sinner whose chief sin in pride of accomplishment, I am going to continue.

      And I have been about the journey long enough to recognize abuse perpetrated by the so-called religious “leaders” and the rather mundane difficulty of dying to self and living in Christ.

      When it gets bad, I quote Acts 9:5 in the King James Version. Very satisfying.

  60. I find this so offensive and way off base. I generally agree with most of your posts, but not these last few posts. I am a multiracial person and I am a woman who has been the victim of rape. I find it very offensive to say that because I chose to vote for Trump that I am somehow an awful person, a racist, a misogynist, etc. I vote based on issues. I could never vote for a person who finds it acceptable to kill an unborn child up to the day it is born, and I don’t know how you could either. I was a counterintelligence agent in the Army, so I place a high value on the secrets of this nation. I know that if I had done a third of what Mrs. Clinton has done, I would be in Ft. Leavenworth for life, but she gets to go free because the president was complicit in her crime and we know he would never be charged. Mrs. Clinton fabricated lies in polling results in order to manipulate the minds of the American people; she bought the media and cheated in debates; and she, too, sir has been alleged to have been the perpetrator of sexual crimes…just ask Cathy O’Brian. No one wanted to investigate those allegations during the campaign. And just why she visited that sex island 6 times! No sir, there was no reason in my mind to justify a vote for Hillary Clinton.

    • Deborah, in my opinion, one of the gigantic mistakes about this election is that people ceased to pay attention to the actual issues. It seems to me that people focused more on the personalities than the party platforms which detailed the actual issues confronting the US voter

      One platform was full of compassion and empathy. One was devoid of it.

      How a person voted reveals their truest beliefs. People put on the shoe that fits them. It’s as simple as that.

      John P’s words are a mirror that he holds up in front of us. If we don’t like what we see in the mirror, we can’t blame John. He is only the messenger. We must deal with the message. If we don’t like what we see in that mirror, we can strive to repent and change so we are no longer that person.

  61. Praying for you Deborah. You sound very troubled. It’s time to put the finger pointing away. Mrs Clinton is not our president elect. The challenge now is how we live together with so much division.

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    • David, I feel for you. So many of us have been on the receiving end of Joe’s puke. It is quite clear that Joe is not interested in rational or reasonable conversation at all and just wants to blast everyone that disagrees with him. He evidently rejects the portions of the New Testament that talk about the use of the tongue. Which can be applied to what we write.

      He doesn’t merely disagree with people. He castigates and verbally murders those with whom he disagrees.

      He is a troll and he is here in many disguises. Writing to him as you do only feeds his ego and convinces him he is right. I am sorry to say this but that is what all the available evidence points to.

  63. Lol. Have a great day Joe. Again assumptions based on a few words. The manner of my response was sincere. As I said. You don’t know me. Toughen up guy. I guess sometimes we invite our own critique. I’m off of here.

  64. Well, Jon, that makes FOUR white men who have chewed out people for wearing safety pins. And this is what I wrote to one of them:

    Hope I am not divulging secret-society secrets by saying that the newly-emerging practice of wearing a safety pin as a symbol has come under fire as insensitive and shallow in three articles I have seen WRITTEN BY WHITE MEN.
    For the record, it’s not their job to tell me what to wear, what to do, or – certainly! – what I am thinking. All three articles have stated that clearly the wearing of a safety pin is being considered by the wearer as sufficient response to the U.S.’s contemporary issues of racism. These men think that the pin is a fashion statement made by – primarily women – who are silly and useless. This is what I just wrote to Chris Keelty:
    This article is extremely well written, and covers the very subjects I have been advocating for, for years. But I am going to take umbrage at the snide way in which the idea of the safety pin as a symbol is treated in this column and in another column by a white man which was foisted on us by a well-meaning female member of Pantsuit Nation. You both assume that by clipping a safety pin into a garment, a person kids him or herself that he or she is making a difference. And you and the other writer arrogantly assume that this person is doing nothing else to make any difference.
    Like a person who wears a pin saying “Ask me about becoming a Mary Kay representative,” or just “Have a nice day,” the person who has chosen to put on the pin has decided to start possible conversations. I have a pin from the TakeonHate campaign of the National Network of Arab-American Communities. It simply says, in vivid colors, “Take on Hate.” It has started a number of conversations, in a surprising variety of settings and with a surprising variety of people.
    And the act of putting on the safety pin in the morning is a mnemonic device for the person, a tiny “Fired up? Ready to go.” None of us knows what a day will bring — or we might not get out of bed. But the pin takes a moment out of our preparations to remind us to square our shoulders and make a difference to ourselves, and thereby to others.
    I believe with all my heart that every one of us every day decorates the lives of the people we encounter. A small gesture, a tone of voice, a hand to help, patience when we are feeling impatient — these can make a difference in the lives of those people. We can leave their presence with them feeling valued, or leave them feeling despised and worthless. The day we do the latter is the day we need to take off the pin, look at it, and either live up to it or put it in the junk drawer.
    And last, it is not out of the realm of possibility that a vulnerable human being might see our pin and feel better, even safer, even willing to ask for help.
    As a correspondent on Pantsuit Nation wrote:
    “White dude. A Michigan professor who is African American as well as several who are LGBTQ wrote that the pins are reassuring to them.
    Our privilege is advertised by our skin tone.
    Our willingness to stand up to bigotry is not.”

    • Tess, are you aware that the only white people John P is talking to are white people who voted Republican?

      Having said that, I do love your response to the condescending and patronizing white males who wrote the pieces to which you responded as above.

      I recommend all to google the article title I cite. I apologize that I am not providing the URL. When I do it sends my comments to moderated status and since John P neither moderates or reads the comments, I have to ask you to google. My apologies for the inconvenience.

      Please google:
      Report: University of Michigan student told to remove her hijab or be set on fire

  65. For anyone who thinks a vote for Trump and the Republicans was not a vote for evil, here are examples of the evil your vote has caused.

    Please google:
    Rampant Bigotry And Hate Crimes Surge – It Appears The change Trump Promised Has Arrived

      • My name is not Gloria. Please have the courtesy to use my actual name. If it is too labor intensive to type that, please address me by title, Sister.” Thank you.

        Your allegations about Democrats hiring people to disrupt Trump rallies is false. Please check the facts at

  66. I apologize for the length of this post in advance.

    I was born, baptized, and raised catholic. I was taught that babies in the womb were sinners who had to be rushed as quickly as possible to a catholic church so they wouldn’t spend eternity in limbo. In my childish mind I envisioned these babies floating about in space forever. Those poor little sinners.

    I was taught that in order to receive communion I needed to go to confession. There is not a catholic child alive who didn’t make up sins to confess. I mean, at age 7? Before you made you first communion? Really.

    At age 14, while confessing my made-up sins, the priest interrupted me and out of nowhere asked me if I had a boyfriend. I answered yes and he asked if I ever jacked him off. I asked him what that meant. I honestly didn’t know but after my five hail marys and five our fathers I sure made it my business to find out. Thanks, father. You educated me at an early age.

    Now, Joe C. I respect everyone’s religion. I don’t even care if someone worships a tree, a totem pole or any deity of their choice. No one likes abortion but as a man you have to step back and give women the respect of their choice. You will never have an abortion so stop condemning and worrying about it.

    I’d love to know how much you would contribute to all the babies born. Your time? Your money? Feed them? House them? Clothe them? Educate them? Please let us know.

    Finally, I know you are a catholic by choice. Why have you not spoken out as passionately against pedophiles and the institution that protected them for so long? Until you can get pregnant, your ranting about our choices is irrelevant. What is a hoot is your vooting for Trump on that one issue and the laughs on you.

    • Lola, I love what you write here. I had the exact same experiences with making up stuff to confess. Although I never had a priest ask me if I jacked off a boyfriend. I hope you told your parents.

      Joe (and a few others) hs an unhealthy obsession with abortion which he drags into every single blog post regardless whether or not it is appropriate.

      Joe (and a few others) are here solely to be trolls and you can recognize them because they begin their comments with a variant of “John P, you are so nasty” except they are never that polite.

      Some of us have learned it is impossible to have a reasonable conversation with them. They offer bait of sounding reasonable and then they smack us upside the head with insults, rants, and screeds.

      I am sorry to have to say it.

    • Joe,
      I am sure I am wasting keystrokes but I will say this to you anyway:
      First, I am not pro-abortion. I am pro-choice and the choice is up to the mother, her doctor and her faith. It is not for me to say unless and until I can also get pregnant. I do not know what I would do in that situation. Period.

      Second, as a biologist AND a follower of Jesus Christ, I also know that until a certain point in development it is impossible to differentiate between a human embryo and any other mammalian embryo and even then you need a microscope. Do I think that what we call a soul is present then? No. The narratives in Scripture are descriptive in letting us know that God has known US all our lives.

      Third, almost all “pro-life” types are really just “pro-birth” because real and true concern ends at the point of birth regardless of the child’s situation. How many offer to adopt the results of unwanted pregnancies? How many are in favor of capital punishment? It’s hypocrisy to claim to be pro-life if that stance ends with birth.

      Your “one note song” doesn’t help your cause, but then that’s not what you want. You just want to interject your one note into EVERY conversation on this list…..and you really do troll for places to do that.

      You lost credibility with me long ago for that very reason…..not that such matters to you anyway.

      • No Joe it is not a theology of convenience, it is a theology involving 4 years of study and daily Bible reading and prayer.

        You conveniently dodged my other questions….death penalty? How many children have you taken an interest in after they were born?

        What do you do to prevent unwanted pregnancies in teens and youth?

        You, like the President Elect, never actually answered any question put to him…..

        • Bruce, you are a good man and a faithful Christian. I formed this opinion on HoB/D.

          Something I’ve learned about Joe Catholic and his many pseudonyms that he uses here, is that he will not answer any direct question.

          It’s very sad, because if he did, it might be possible to have real dialogue but instead his modas operandi is to draw one in deeper and deeper until one reaizes Joe has an unhealthy and unnatural obsession with abortion.

  67. any one who voted republican voted for this evil

    please google
    Hate crimes against Muslims hit highest mark since 2001

  68. Joe…say what? I….? I…? have the wrong concept of what the catholic church teaches about unborn babies? What? Well, I know you weren’t born and raised… WHAT? Are in a position to tell me that I was wrong about what I was taught? Son of a Bitch: 2&2 equals 4 and unborn babies were sinners at conception. Every hear of original sin? Venial sin? Mortal sin? Sacrilege? BTW original sin is the sin that the unborn are labeled with and their only hope to get into heaven is to be baptized catholic.

    This is my last post. To John P: Thank you for your post “It’s Gonna Be OK”. It got me through the death of my husband at about the same time you lost you father. I started every day saying, “It’s gonna be ok” over and over and ya know, it turned out ok. Again, THANK YOU!

  69. Here is some more evil by those who voted Republican

    Please google:
    Restaurant denies free Veterans Day meal to black veteran after man in Trump shirt accuses him of lying

    • Yep. I wrote to Chili’s and told them that my family has placed a one-year moratorium on eating at any Chili’s location. They will not care—not really. Like most businesses, they are more about defending their employees than serving their customers. The manager who went after this guy will get nothing more than a simple reprimand and a promise of retraining. He deserves crucifixion like the two thieves beside Jesus on the cross.

      • Yeah, Republicans claim to respect vets but they stick to them at every turn. This Trump supporter bigot racist wouldn’t even allow the vet the free meal.

        We are going to see a whole lot more evil such as this. I notice no Republican speaking against either. What does that tell you? They love the Trump effect. And Trump won’t say anything because I am certain he is tickled pink that an effect has been named after him.

        • It has been called the Trump effect so what is in the heart is revealed to us, thanks be to God.

          The interesting thing about the Trump effect is that we can see all Trumps faults, lies and intentions. God’s grace is abundant because we are given full access to what is in his heart through Trumps own words and actions.

          Don’t be fooled. The magician puts on the show and everyone loves the magician even thought the magician has tricked us by his illusions.

  70. Thank you, Susan

    Susan Russell
    17 hrs · Altadena ·
    Thinking you can stick a safety pin on your lapel and make liberty and justice for all a done deal is like hanging a cross around your neck and thinking you’ve made the kingdom come on earth as it is in heaven.

    It is just a sign — just a symbol — of the commitment to be part of the solution. rather than the problem. It is an outward and visible sign of the inward and spiritual determination to be the change you want to see. It is an icon of solidarity that transcends all the labels that have been deployed to divide us.

    And this morning … in line at Starbucks when the young woman in the hijab turned from the counter with her Venti something-or-the-other in her hand and looked at me standing there with my big fat safety pin on my shirt and smiled and nodded her head ever-so-slightly … in that moment of recognition I got all I needed to tell me that wearing a safety pin is a baby step in the right direction on the journey to the place we’re headed. Where liberty and justice for all isn’t just a pledge but a reality. So count me in … for the long haul.

  71. I don’t think it’s the Trump supporters displaying the safety pins. I voted third party, but if this election mattered so much for the safety of minorities, maybe they shouldn’t have nominated such a slop bucket. Safety pins aren’t going to fix anything, and neither are whiny blog posts.

  72. Of course, bu voting third party, you are a contributor to the hate and evil to follow after oaths of office are sworn.

  73. Joe Catholic, I have read many, many of your posts through the past month or so. Like many others I agree that while you are entitled to your opinion I have chosen to just scroll by when I see your name.
    It is obvious that you don’t wish to participate in positive, constructive discussion nor listening, really listening to what is happening in others lives.
    I wish you many blessings as I think you need God’s grace and humility . A proud Canadian where we all just get along and just wash our hands like most people after they use the bathroom.

    • Joe, like all agitators all you accomplish is distracting people and raising their pulses which causes people distress. It’s a typical technique used by bullies to throw people off kilter. It’s not about anyone denying your right to speak or have an opinion it’s about your inability to have a dialogue with others. It’s not compelling.

      If you care about the unborn then you should care exponentially more for the living. Jesus once said “let the dead bury the dead” What he meant was not that he lacked empathy for the dead but that they are gone and our focus should be on the people around us who need hope and on following him.

    • I think many already do.
      But I also suspect, for some – it really doesn’t matter.
      Of course, if you (such as yourself) are reasonably principled, armed with appropriate facts and context and (most important) can figure out your audience…you can advocate for alternative viewpoints and principles.
      Anything you can do that helps others overcome fear, self doubt and ignorance is accepted as a naturally positive message and essentially – how change begins to resonate.
      Just my two cents 🙂

      • Sirius and Joe, now you are talking to yourself.

        I remember Joe (Catholic) when you were Benny and posted as Joe by mistake in answer to someone who was questioning Benny. You did the same thing on this thread and answered as Joe to a question posed to Sirus.

        As I remember it on a previous blog Benny said he had two computers on the go. Are you paid to troll ?

        • I can assure you – I’m not Catholic Joe by any stretch. You may want to consider the obvious differences in tone and language use.
          Regardless, I hope your earlier question will be answered (theological position) by the author of the commentaries. I am interested also. Cheers.

            • Well, for what its worth – I like your cynicism in this matter as I suspect there are dual personalities here as well.
              Yet, there is little I can do to prove my innocence. Funny how the same could be said of you.

              • Sirius you said “I suspect there are dual personalities here as well.”

                This is a kind of passive admission that detectives notice when people are denying something they have done. They admit others do it and they inadvertently include themselves as part of that group. (as well includes you)

                I accept that Joe Catholic says he is not you because it means that neither Sirus or Joe Catholic is your true name

      • No I am not Charles.

        What I see is you and Sirus working people over as a tag team. Those people are grieving and asking questions and you are battering them with your words and shaming them with your videos. I think it shows a lack of compassion for people and certainly does not further your cause or make anyone think your cause reflects the love of Christ.

        • Hey. I am not Anonymous or any other person here—just the same old Charles. I have no need to be anyone else or to make myself look more numerous. My posts have too many typos to be anyone else here.

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  75. Hey Joe Catholic, Anonymous, and Sirus. I am not very familiar with some internal functions on WordPress, particularly the thing called “Ping Backs.” I was wondering if each of you could go to my blog at the following safe link ( send a Ping Back of one of my blog articles (does not matter which ones) to another blog site—if you know how to do it. I would be interested in what happens when that occurs because my articles are never sent to other blogs. Thanks!!!

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