Why You May Want to Try Church Again

This weekend I was invited by a Connecticut church to host several conversations on faith, politics, and the bigger table over the course of three days.

Because of the disparate audience the blog has found, many people who showed up on Saturday morning would never otherwise walk into a church. Some hadn’t ever been to a house of worship outside of the odd wedding or funeral here or there, while others had been estranged for years or even decades from their former faith community. Many came with more than a bit of trepidation. 

But something amazing happened after the first gathering concluded: many of these reluctant prodigals stayed; returning the next day for services and remaining for coffee afterward. They hung out for our afternoon conversation, made plans to have dinner with strangers, and talked about coming back on another Sunday.

A woman in her late forties came up to me at the end of the afternoon, she moved in close and placed her hands around mine. “I didn’t think church could be like this anymore.” she said, with tears blurring her eyes. “I’d given up thinking this existed.” She’d experienced close proximity with a beautiful local church community; not a perfect one, but one filled with good-hearted, grace-giving, flawed human beings who are trying to live and to love people well. It is one among thousands filling the landscape of this world, even as their work is overshadowed by the finger pointers and the damnation-hurlers.

Redemptive stuff happened in that building that reminded me, and reminded many refugees from the Church or maybe showed them for the first time—that Christianity can’t be defined solely by those who’ve used it as a weapon, those who’ve hated in the name of Jesus, those whose angry diatribes regularly make the news. That isn’t the entire story.

I spend a lot of time with people who’ve given up on the Church, and who’ve done so for good reason.

They have have experienced discrimination and ostracism in local faith communities, been pushed to the periphery because of their gender identity or sexual orientation, for the color of their skin or their theological deviations. They might have endured  emotional or perhaps even physical violation. Maybe they’ve simply reached the final straw from a politicized, weaponized religion that seems to nurture inequality and bigotry. Every day I speak to and meet with men and women who’ve washed their hands of buildings with crosses on Sunday mornings and all of the people in them because of the incredible damage they’ve incurred there and then and at their hands. 

If you’re done with Church, I get you. I’ve been there. Many days I’m still there. I understand what it feels like to believe that organized religion no longer has anything meaningful to offer you, that you’re better off on the outside, that something that far off the plot of Jesus isn’t worth your time. I often tell people like you to walk away and not to feel the slightest guilt for doing so; to shake the dust from your feet and to leave. I tell people like you that you don’t need those places to pursue a wonderfully fulfilling spiritual journey.

But today, in the wake of my time with new friends
I want to say something different.
I want you to consider another option. I want to suggest that you may want to go back to the Church—and here’s why.

All faith communities are not created equal or identical.

Every local gathering of faithful people will be entirely different from another; even within the same denomination or tradition. The leadership, organizational structure, sense of community, core values, and practical theology will all be vastly different because the exact arrangement of humanity will be completely distinct. When you get close enough to clearly see it, you may find a particular community defying expectation in the same ways that people you meet sometimes do once you have closer proximity to them. Judging every local church based on any other local church (or even many of them), is as dangerous and problematic as making the same mistake with any new person you encounter based on a previous one.

There is beauty happening everywhere.

Chances are, even in a community whose basic theological tenets are seemingly diametrically opposite your personal religious convictions, there will still be people there who are less rigid, more open, and willing to learn; those committed to hearing other’s stories and serving people in need and transforming their communities and being a source of goodness in the world. You might find affinity despite your surface differences. You might cross paths with someone in whom you find a surprising kindred spirit—and you might alter one another’s stories, and the world as you do.

There are no caricatures in any of those buildings.

Every local faith community is filled with completely unique human stories; individual, complex, original journeys that are every bit as rich and painful and inspirational and valid as your own. Along with things you may find fully objectionable in the people in those buildings, there are other things you’ll find too: relationships and creativity and dreams and fears and passions and joys and devastations. You may not like each person there the closer you get to them, but you’ll get an accurate story about them. You’ll realize that every human being is far bigger than the boxes and labels we fashion for them.

Friend, I don’t want to pretend that a great portion of organized Christianity isn’t doing terrible damage in the name of Jesus; that it isn’t marginalizing and excluding and oppressing some of the most vulnerable people in this world. I don’t want to look past its horrifying blemishes and its systemic sicknesses and its bloated opulence.

And if you’ve been wounded in a church, or by a preacher or by a politician claiming Jesus—I certainly don’t want to minimize your pain or ask you to place yourself in harm’s way, or to be where you’re not treated with the dignity you deserve.

But I am asking you to keep your eyes open; to stay curious, and to entertain the idea that maybe there is still a place for you where faithful people gather; a place where you’ll learn firsthand that Christians of the bigger table do exist, and that you will be welcome there. It might not be that you’re done with religion, it might just be that you need to encounter a religion that is worthy of you, and of God.

There are faith communities where LGBTQ men and women are fully celebrated, where women are valued as leaders, where divides of race and economics are reached across, where theological deviations are warmly welcomed, where hospitality is offered to all. 

Yes, you may want to keep staying away from the Church—

or you may want to try one more time.

It might be the day you find yourself home again, or for the first time.


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41 thoughts on “Why You May Want to Try Church Again

  1. “It might not be that you’re done with religion, it might just be that you need to encounter a religion that is worthy of you, and of God.” After being out of church for many years, I recently decided to try to find a group of people like what you’ve described, and I’m so thankful to have found them. It’s made such a difference in my faith journey, to be able to walk with others who think similarly and struggle with the same questions I do. After my first visit, I was like “So THIS is what church is supposed to be!” and I’ve been enjoying these gatherings for about three months now, getting to know people and sharing and listening and working together for peace and justice. . . . Such a wonderful, beautiful thing.

  2. Well stated. I have looked around my local area and have found no church I would attend within 10 miles of me. I know I will have to move to find a more open church. I love living in the countryside but the religious communities seem closed minded and ossified in their thinking. My older sister will not go back to church because she can’t find one that she and her wife can go to. Until I find a place where us misfits can go I will not attend right now, but I might find a place later on.

    • Robin, I sometimes lurk around on John’s comment areas because I’m a political and social liberal woman who feels so strongly that Christians need to be in supportive community with each other. There’s a battle going on right now in my denomination, the United Methodist Church, over the place of LGBTQ people. But if you look for the Reconciling congregations displaying the rainbow flames logo, those are places of full welcome and acceptance of all people. There are 700 around the country now, and I hope there might be one in driving distance for you. If so, please give it a try.

      • Keith wrote, “There’s a battle going on right now in my denomination, the United Methodist Church, over the place of LGBTQ people.”

        I am aware of the struggles the UMC face. Some years ago my own denomination went through the same thing and we came out of it proclaiming that when we say The Episcopal Church welcomes you, we mean every sort of “you” there is.

        I trust the UMC will come to the same conclusion because, after all, love of neighbor demands full inclusion of all of God’s people, exactly as it delighted God to create them.

  3. The message is encouraging, indeed. But the broken heart, while praying for and trying earnestly to forgive the heart breakers, is reticent to surrender itself to the whims and fancies of a leadership that has grown calloused and cold. My deceased pastor/friend/employer once cautioned me not to allow the behaviors and choices of the Church leaders to interfere in my faith, my relationship with Christ. I try, but a relationship with Christ cannot be one dimensional. I need a community, but being home-bound keeps me from “going to,” and the only ones willing to “come to” my home-church are those who feel a compulsion to convert me. I never left the Church; the Church left me.

  4. Thank you for this. I’ve read your blogs that have expressed your pain and disillusionment with churches. I’ve been saddened at encouragements to walk away because of that pain and the problems displayed by so many congregations. And today I am humbled by your willingness to soften and be reminded that not all churches have been hijacked. That there are congregations out there that defy the stereotype, and, importantly, may be worth looking for.

  5. Now more than ever as the day approaches we see the end coming near .
    Gods Judgement for Rebellion
    Gods name being defiled by other false gods
    Everyone replacing Gods Holiness with mans wisdom
    Mankind deciding that Godless Atheletes and Hollywood pretenders know the answers to life.
    I could go on with this for hours
    Man, Woman, Children need Truth and if church is the answer, The Watch, Pray, Seek, Cry out to God for answers in this great time of luxury and deception.
    where mankind has replaced The Truth for the Lie

    • “Now more than ever as the day approaches we see the end coming near”
      I madman has the launch codes of the most powerful country in the history of the world.
      “Mankind deciding that Godless Atheletes . . . know the answers to life.”
      The truth comes out: Christopher believes anti-racism is Rebellion Against God.

    • christopher freeman,
      I think you missed the point of John’s blog. He’s talking less judgment, not more.
      Sorry for your pain, but this broken-record diatribe is what’s driving people from Church. Community is about gathering in, not driving away. Sorry again for your pain.

  6. One of my personal goals is to face my fear of church. I discuss it with my therapist, trusted friends.

    I have attempted to make appointments with priests who refuse to make time for me because I am not a member of their parish. I am upfront with them that I am unchurched because my own parish hurt me and let me down in a huge way.

    I had a heart attack on a Thursday, had two stents put in on Friday and was sent home on Saturday, to fend for myself. My best friend was out of town caring for her father with cancer. All my other friends were at my church.,

    I called the priest, explained how ill I was and how I needed help. I was too ill to prepare food. I was eating hard-cooked eggs bought the previous Wed at Costco and undrained cans of tuna. Undrained because once I had opened the tuna with the can opener I was too exhausted to drain it.

    I was too ill to make a lot of phone calls. I waited for the priest to get the word out. I waited for phone calls. I waited for people to come to my door. No one did.

    I haven’t been back to church since and I explain to the priests I call that I wish to return to worship, that I miss the sacraments, that I miss church life and want a parish home. But even so they are too busy to talk to a non-parishioner. It hurts deeply that they will not spare me an hour.

    • Gloria, I think you have alienated people from you because of your self righteous criticism of others. The Church hasn’t done anything to you, so please stop blaming others for your unhappiness!

      • Listen Nekked. No one here is going to stop anything because “you tell them to.” Gloriamarie is a friend of mine. Leave her alone, or I will give your sorry fundie ass a flaming you will think is Hell itself. Gloriamarie has a right to feel however she wants to feel. Maybe you fundies should try feeling some things every once in a while—like maybe feeling some love for your neighbors when they are hurting.

  7. This was exactly me. I stayed away from church for decades, believing there was no such denomination or community with which my beliefs are shared. And in which my bisexual daughter could feel completely welcome to participate fully, if she so chose. But I was wrong. Unbeknownst to me for too long, not 10 minutes’ drive from my home is an old Episcopalian church. Men and women, both married and unmarried are eligible for ordination in any clergy position. Lay people exercise a vital role in governance and ministry. All baptized Christians, of any denomination, may receive Holy Communion. There is grace after divorce (I was divorced and am happily remarried) and no one is denied the sacraments. The rite of marriage is available to all, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Birth control is rightly affirmed to be a matter of personal conscience and no one else’s business. Love always comes before uniformity of opinion in spiritual matters. My priest is openly gay and happily married to his husband. I love him, my fellow congregants and the great work our church does on behalf of the underserved and marginalized in our larger community. There is absolutely nothing wrong in being unaffiliated with a place of worship. And equally nothing wrong in searching until you find one (that may have been in your own backyard all along) that deeply and authentically resonates with your spirit. Blessings and love to all.

      • Nothing surprises me about your little fundie cult either Nekked.

        Hey everyone. You can learn all about her/his little fundie cult and how sinful it is over on my blog. I have 200 blog articles showing how screwed up and unGodly it actually is—denying Christ’s love in favor of law. You can read all about it at the following safe link:


    • Without wishing to be trite, what you’re describing here is a pleasant social club, not a church. The church will always be defined by that group of people who dedicate their lives to following the words and life of Christ, rejecting all sin and knowing that a love relationship with Him is shown in their adherence to Christ’s admonition, “If you love me, obey my commandments”. What you’ve said here is that anything goes in your circle as long as there’s love. You’re mistaking love for tolerance of that which our Saviour has said is sin. Please, read His words, Old Testament and New. The red letter verses are not the only verses that reveal Christ’s voice.

        • Charles, I probably don’t have to tell you this but ad hominem attacks are always a sign of weakness in an argument. All of your posts keep on attacking anyone you perceive to be a “fundamentalist” in personal terms. You think that that will turn our hearts towards your way of thinking? It merely serves to emphasise the fact that you’re more intent on sullying people than having a chat on the topic.

  8. Jesus spoke out against “organized religion” more than once. I personally define religion as “the man-made hierarchy with man-made rules based upon a spiritual path”. It is NOT the spiritual path. It’s a vehicle we have made to carry us along that path…and it frequently fails. It has to. It’s MAN-made.
    Jesus cleared out the temple–threw out the money-changers and the dove sellers and anyone else seeking to make profit from the prophet, so to speak. And wherever Jesus stopped and spoke, that was the church. Him. And the people with him. Not the building, or lack thereof. Not a specific location. Not even a specific group of people.
    Far too many churches today are merely self-congratulatory, self-aggrandizing meeting places for people who think entering that specific building grants them a free pass on all the stuff Jesus told his followers to do. (It’s a list with 8 items; 2 commandments and 6 tasks; why is that so damned difficult for people to remember–and follow??) These people are not in church to worship God; they are only there to pat themselves on the back, to mingle with others who are also “saved” as if it were a country club.
    Jesus is horrified at all that is done “in His name”. Matthew 25:31-46 tells of Judgment Day and how the King will sort out the people. I suggest most Christians are not familiar with those verses simply because if they were, they would behave VERY differently. Being a follower of Jesus BEGINS at accepting him as your savior; it doesn’t end with your salvation. In fact, being baptized…isn’t even a part of his instructions. Being baptized by John, Jesus was making a symbolic gesture of quitting carpentry for preaching. He did not make it the sole requirement for his followers–it has nothing to do with the work they were to accomplish. Even for humans, it’s still just a symbolic gesture of quitting a non-spiritual life for a spiritual one. And the list of symbols versus instructions can go on and on.
    John P has hit it on the head (again): just because you hold onto a label of some sort of Christianity (“Catholic” or “Baptist” or “whatever”) does not lock you into going only to the buildings that share that label. Shop around! Go to other places of worship, however many it takes, until you find one that resonates within you, that opens your heart to the Love that is Jesus. You don’t have to “formally” change your affiliation; the label doesn’t matter. Just find a place to be with other people who are also doing their best to follow the 2 rules and do the 6 tasks. (FYI: 2 rules: Love God, Love your neighbor; 6 tasks: listed in Matthew 25:31-46. Check it out.)
    If you cannot find a Christian church that fits, try the Unitarian Universalists. They will not try to make you change your mind about Jesus; it is possible to be a Christian and a UU. Keyword search “Christian UU” if you like. I’ve been in many types of Christian churches and I will tell you that my experience with the UUs outshines them all. They are so inclusive of the diversity of “others” that many of their buildings are designated as “Safe Harbor”. Social Justice (those 6 tasks in a single phrase) is a MAIN portion of their mission. Just be warned: most of the UUs I have met are incredibly intelligent and thoughtful people who aren’t afraid to ask “why?” something is. Be prepared for a lot of discussion–if only because the entire thing runs on consensus of the entire congregation. The minister is there to…oddly enough, minister. There is a Board that handles the business of existing in the human world: renting or owning the property, generating income and delegating output and so on. Unitarian Universalism isn’t for everyone–no more than any other organized and common spiritual path is for everyone.
    Keep looking until you find a place that your soul can call home on Earth. It does exist–and perhaps where you least expect it to be.
    And if you just cannot find the right place…then walk proudly along the path that Jesus laid out for his followers.

    I identify as a Tibetan Zen Buddhist. I practice the 8-Fold Path. There’s that number again…8. Eight things that Buddha said would lead to a life lived with love…and eight things that Jesus said would lead to a life lived with love–both of which have incredible overlap with each other. I try to live a life with love; I find Jesus’ words to be just as instructional as Buddha’s. I guess that makes me proof that you don’t have to be a Christian to be a Jesus follower.

    Peace and blessings.

    • KGC: Buddhism is godless & depressing. Buddha mistakenly believed that detachment and avoiding pain was a noble goal, while Jesus , King of pain, (God) taught that suffering is real, that we will suffer if we follow Him, and we will grow in our suffering.

      All Sidddhartha ( the Hindu) cared about was dying and getting off the wheel, he cared nothing for his wife and son. Ceasing all actions, is the opposite of our Jesus, who was/ is on the move, and interacting with the brethren.

      Even ‘Master’ Tenzin Gyatso doesn’t know ‘if I will be able to summon the necessary presence of mind (& tantra yoga posture) upon my death to take me into nothingness”. [What a horrible position for anyone to be in. Yet, he continues to point ‘seekers’ in that very bleak direction.]

      Buddhism is legalism (600 laws) & performance-based that sets up comparisons with ea other that reach all the way into the stratosphere. Jesus does not compare his Children, from the instant they believe, he surrounds them with love & care.

      Buddhism is as far as the East is from the West compared to being FREE in Christ Jesus.

      x-buddhist. Free at last.

  9. I have to admit, you have inspired me once again. It was about a month ago that I decided that church was no longer a life-giving place for me. It was more of a ball and chain that I needed to shake off. So I did. Shook it off and walked away. But a few surprizing things happened.

    First of all, my husband of 30 years stopped attending also. That surprized me because he’s not a very vocal man, but when it comes to faith , he has been my rock, my shelter in the storm, all these years.

    Secondly, friends from my original church, suddenly began to phone me again. I havent seen some of these people in almost 2 years since we left that church. They wanted to get together for coffee or lunch. Even a missionary on furlow, one who had deeply offended me , phoned to see how we were doing. I never expected the love extended to me over the last week.

    I’ve said all this to say, I’m going to give it another try. I’m going back to my original church with all its flaws, all its bigotry, its injustices and unfairness and I’m going to BE a voice for change. Thats how youve changed and inspired me. You and God. You’ve given me a voice and God has healed the brokenhearted. THANK YOU FOR BEING YOURSELF.

    I’m including a blog address of a blog I have recently started. There is not much there yet. I’m telling my story and with trepitation I am offering you a look at it. Nobody else has seen this yet. I’d appreciate your feedback.

    • Being a blog owner myself, I would like to see your blog too—not to criticize you—but just to see what you have to say. Everyone’s experience with life is different.

  10. Nice main post John. I think too many people do think all churches are exactly the same (as I once did to a certain extent in my younger days.) I later learned that this is not true—and you are correct—all churches are not the same even within the same Christian denomination.

    My only caution would be that Christian fundamentalist and conservative evangelical churches—especially the whacko IFB and Assembly of God “type” of churches—tend to be far more rigid and uniform. This is probably because their pastors study at cult-like, clickish small Bible colleges (some unaccredited) that are in amazing cahoots with each other in terms of what they believe. In other words, the pastors of these churches are part of a real “old boys network” that is far more elbow rubbing and exclusive than anything you would find in the major denominational churches—and I suspect that this breeds a lot of sameness from one fundie church to the next—where you can here 10 different preachers from 10 different churches all say in unison: “He does not believe in right doctrine.”

    Now. Repeat after me:

    “He does not believe in right doctrine.”

    “She does not believe in right doctrine.”

    “Their dog does not believe in right doctrine.”

    “Their cat does not believe in right doctrine.”

    “Youins is all a goin’ ta ha-a-a-a-a-yul.”

    If you would like to do yourself and Jesus a big favor—and you are seriously thinking about going back to a church like John suggests as a possibility, I have a handy, dandy tool that can help you avoid these fundie whacko churches and find a church that will be good to your heart and soul. All you have to do is read the following post on my blog—which contains the tool that can help you avoid making one of the biggest church mistakes you will ever make. Just click on the following safe link:


    Happy church hunting to you!!!

  11. Dear ‘bitten-by-a-camel-and-left-church reader:

    We know that you’re fed up with the culture of mercenaries, war criminals, speculators, anti-immigrant militias, out-and-out fascists.

    We also know that you DON’T want fundamentalist/evangelical/bourgeoisie pastors who are right in there with ’em like a dirty rag.


    • How long have you been on Putin’s payroll? After the revelations about Russian meddling in our elections and establishing fake Facebook pages and ads to cause dissension among Americans—I don’t trust anyone anymore.

  12. Dear John,
    This article is truly in the spirit of an inviting, open table. However, can we emphesize more that ‘comming back’ is comming back to God first? Is religious context here just to support this journey and essentially the experience of God?


  13. Thanks, John, but no thanks. For me the damage is too much, and any attempts at reconciliation are too little too late. I was raised Roman Catholic, like most in my family. I was even an altar boy in grade school. And, while I was never harmed physically (e.g. sexual abuse), I feel it prevented me from reaching my full potential. Once I rid my soul and my conscience of those shackles, I saw how bright the world could be. People waxed poetically about Pope Francis; saying what a great new-age-style religious leader he’d be. Then he asked people to pray for those priests who’ve abused children. And, I told myself, ‘Well, no one should be surprised by that.’ The Catholic Church is a whore who’ll spread its legs or ass for the highest bidder. And, if it can’t do it, it’ll find some defenseless soul (usually a child) to take its place.

    Sadly, I look around and still see so many people helplessly enslaved by the ideologies of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. Those 3 religions have been the crux of humanity’s problems for almost 2 millennia. They’ve resulted in the deaths of literally millions of innocent people, many of them children. Entire wars have been fought and entire civilizations have been destroyed because of them. The animosity among those 3 continues to this day and won’t stop until either the world ends or some massive cataclysm wipes out the majority of humankind.

    Now, I’m more spiritual and independent-minded. I see the Great Creator in the Earth and the Sky – not in the guises of a bunch of old men running around in the finest silk and velvet, like aging drag queens at happy hour. I certainly don’t see spiritualism among the evangelical crowd; self-righteous maniacs who are the heathens of Christianity; the same ones who created caste systems in Europe and the U.S. that benefited their narrow-minded thought processes. I don’t see spiritualism in the Jewish faith – orthodox or not, whatever the hell that’s supposed to mean – comprised mainly of people who think they are the chosen ones; that they stand at the apex of humanity and toss morsels of decency to the rest of us cluttered at the bottom. They’re the ones who are quick to play the victim – as if they are the only people on Earth who have ever suffered oppression and genocide – and then tell jokes about it all. I certainly don’t see anything spiritual about Islam – perhaps the most violent and bloodthirsty of the three. I used to call Islam a dog religion and then I thought, ‘That’s not nice to compare dogs to Muslims. How could I be so disrespectful to canines?!’

    Good luck, John. I’m sure you mean well, but just don’t try too hard. There’s too much blood for one decent person like you to mop up.

  14. John, sorry to hurt your feelings, but all you’ve done is given more excuses for people to continue to use to attack the Christian Church.

    Gay people hate the church because the church preaches against their chosen lifestyle that God has condemned and will judge.

    The church hasn’t done anything to the rebellious people that you’re trying to protect, so please stop with the asinine postings.

    • Nekked. John is not going to stop. This blog is the 36th largest church in the United States. You are wasting your time peddling hatred of LGBTQ people on this blog.

      Being gay is not a “chosen lifestyle.” It is the way people wake up one morning at age 13 and find that they are magnetically drawn to the same sex. Many are horrified by it because they had plans to get married one day to a person of the opposite sex and one day have three children the night before. It happens just like you woke up one morning and found that you were magnetically drawn to the opposite sex. If you were to actually make friends with some gay people rather than shooting them a bird in the name of Jesus, you might understand more than you do now. However, as I have observed over many years, given a choice between loving someone and hating someone, the average fundie will choose hatred every time. You are just another example of it—and like I said—you are wasting your time here.

  15. One of the amazing things to observe today is to hear the criticism of those that believe that a Church should be judged on whether they agree with homosexuality or not.

    A church is judged to be a “good” church only if it approves, sanctions, and advocate for the full acceptance of homosexuality. Of course, that’s not the Biblical position or truth. And it certainly is not the position of Jesus and the Apostles.

    And it is definitely not the position I take on the issue. Sinners should be loved and fully accepted by the Body of Believers because we’re all broken and fallen creatures. However, true love speaks the truth, and we should tell people in the sin of homosexuality, that God loves them, and has provided a way of freedom through Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit. We are neither loving nor helpful when we affirm the things that can destroy the eternal souls of people. Let’s really love people by “Speaking the truth in love”, says Paul.

    • I would remind you that your fundie churches have reduced the Christian faith to hating LGBTQ people and opposition to abortion—the latter a subject that is not addressed directly at all in the Bible. You fundies judge people and churches by the litmus test of whether they hate LGBTQ people and hate abortion. It seems to have never occurred to you fundies that the Christian faith is far more than who or what you choose to hate in the name of Jesus.

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  17. For LGBT brothers and sisters who have been driven away from Church by meanness and condemnation, there are thousands of congregations who would welcome you. https://www.gaychurch.org (I won’t mention my denomination because many are becoming open and affirming, and we are often most comfortable in the liturgies and hymnodies of our early years. If spirituality is still in your heart, you CAN find a home again. Thanks, John, for your words of encouragement to so many.

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