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When Children Don’t Come Home
Parents, I wonder how your children came home today. They may have come through the door like a human hormone cyclone: exploding loudly through the room and leaving a trail

Withholding Communion is Hoarding Jesus—and it’s a Sin
This week, San Francisco Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone notified House Speaker Nancy Pelosi in a letter, that she is banned from receiving holy communion due to her support of a woman’s

A Pro-Choice Man Grieving Pro-Life Women
Photo credit: Melissa Golden/Redux There’s a strange moment in nearly all of my interactions with professed pro-life women, one that never fails to disorient me and grieve me. Whether they’re

Mother’s Day Should Be a Woman’s Choice
Mother’s Day should not be compulsory for any woman. It should be the yearly celebration of a decision, a moment to mark a beautiful but perilous journey one has carefully

Dear Republicans,
Dear Republicans, This doesn’t have to be this difficult. It really doesn’t. This is all so frustrating to watch. I wish I could make you understand some things that you

Yes, the Sky is Falling in America
For the past six years, many of us knew this day was coming. We sounded every alarm, rang every bell, we shot up a thousand desperate flares to rile people

Rejecting the Right’s Toxic Definition of Manhood
Ever since Donald Trump was recorded saying vile, sickening things about women (and his supporters and surrogates were quickly forced to rationalize and defend it all in order to still

A Funeral for My Christianity
A friend told me that I seemed angry lately and at first it really pissed me off. I instantly mounted a spirited, vigorous defense laying out the reasons she had

The Curse of Availability
Take a quick second and look back on the past week or so of your life. Have you received a text that was truly urgent? An email that honestly needed

When is Violence an Acceptable Response to Violence?
If you weren’t watching it live you’ve seen it by now. While presenting at the Academy Awards, comedian Chris Rock makes a joke at the expense of actress Jada Pinkett

No, All Opinions are Not Equally Valid
Yesterday, a stranger on social media was defending Fox News host Tucker Carlson’s disturbing steadfast support of Russian President Vladimir Putin and the continual flood of atrocities being committed in

Good People are Tired of Pretend Patriots and the Phony Faithful
This is exhausting. I think I’ve figured out why. I think it’s the pretending. It’s bad enough watching nearly half our nation becoming fully indoctrinated into a sycophantic cult of

You Should Be Weary Right Now
You should be a little weary right now. If you are, be grateful. That is a good thing. That weariness is confirmation that your heart is working properly. It is

Why We Need To Say Gay
Years ago while serving as a student pastor, I received an email from a 12th grade girl who I’d met three days earlier at a youth ministry event. That night,

When Americans Support Murderous Foreign Dictators
Chris McGrath/Getty Images Watching the slow and steady Russian advance toward Ukraine over recent weeks, a stomach-turning series of thoughts took up residence in my head: They’re not going to

Yes, For Some COVID is Over.
COVID is over. That’s the single refrain of Conservative Americans right now. They shout it in red-faced, profanity-laden diatribes at the meetings of beleaguered school boards. They embody it as

One Million Funerals and the Death of Empathy in America
So much to grieve over. It isn’t just their childish tantrums at being asked to wear a mask at the grocery store, or their nonsensical claims of personal oppression. It

How Do You Love Toxic People?
The most common question people ask me when we talk either in person or virtually, is essentially a variation on a single theme: “How do I love someone I no

If Conservatives Want to Ban Dangerous Books, They Better Start With the Bible
Recently, a Tennessee school board voted to ban Maus, a Pulitzer Prize-winning graphic novel about the Holocaust from their eight grade curriculum. This has become a familiar tactic of Republican

Yes, This is All About Tribalism.
Today, I was having a conversation with a man on social media about the Republican Party’s passionate opposition to voting rights, its continued efforts to suppress votes and to gerrymander

All Americans Know January 6th Was An Insurrection. Decent Ones Care.
We all saw it. On January 6th, 2021, many of us watched it in disbelief in real time: the almost incomprehensible sight of thousands of people breaching the very seat

The World Needs Good News This Year. Give it Some.
I’m getting sick of bad news. More accurately, I’m getting sick from bad news. I don’t mean figuratively sick, either—I mean that it is making me physically ill. I wake

#LETSGOBRANDON is The Siren Song of Hateful People
The first time I came across #LETSGOBRANDON, I was in line at a craft store picking up some stocking stuffers, and a woman in her late forties with three young

COVID Stole One Year. The Unvaccinated Stole Another.
Photo: David McNew/Agence France-Presse — Getty Images December 14th, 2020 should have been the beginning of the end of this horror. With the administering of the first dose of a

When Children Don’t Come Home
Parents, I wonder how your children came home today. They may have come through the door like a human hormone cyclone: exploding loudly through the room and leaving a trail

Withholding Communion is Hoarding Jesus—and it’s a Sin
This week, San Francisco Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone notified House Speaker Nancy Pelosi in a letter, that she is banned from receiving holy communion due to her support of a woman’s

A Pro-Choice Man Grieving Pro-Life Women
Photo credit: Melissa Golden/Redux There’s a strange moment in nearly all of my interactions with professed pro-life women, one that never fails to disorient me and grieve me. Whether they’re

Mother’s Day Should Be a Woman’s Choice
Mother’s Day should not be compulsory for any woman. It should be the yearly celebration of a decision, a moment to mark a beautiful but perilous journey one has carefully

Dear Republicans,
Dear Republicans, This doesn’t have to be this difficult. It really doesn’t. This is all so frustrating to watch. I wish I could make you understand some things that you

Yes, the Sky is Falling in America
For the past six years, many of us knew this day was coming. We sounded every alarm, rang every bell, we shot up a thousand desperate flares to rile people

Rejecting the Right’s Toxic Definition of Manhood
Ever since Donald Trump was recorded saying vile, sickening things about women (and his supporters and surrogates were quickly forced to rationalize and defend it all in order to still

A Funeral for My Christianity
A friend told me that I seemed angry lately and at first it really pissed me off. I instantly mounted a spirited, vigorous defense laying out the reasons she had

The Curse of Availability
Take a quick second and look back on the past week or so of your life. Have you received a text that was truly urgent? An email that honestly needed

When is Violence an Acceptable Response to Violence?
If you weren’t watching it live you’ve seen it by now. While presenting at the Academy Awards, comedian Chris Rock makes a joke at the expense of actress Jada Pinkett

No, All Opinions are Not Equally Valid
Yesterday, a stranger on social media was defending Fox News host Tucker Carlson’s disturbing steadfast support of Russian President Vladimir Putin and the continual flood of atrocities being committed in

Good People are Tired of Pretend Patriots and the Phony Faithful
This is exhausting. I think I’ve figured out why. I think it’s the pretending. It’s bad enough watching nearly half our nation becoming fully indoctrinated into a sycophantic cult of

You Should Be Weary Right Now
You should be a little weary right now. If you are, be grateful. That is a good thing. That weariness is confirmation that your heart is working properly. It is

Why We Need To Say Gay
Years ago while serving as a student pastor, I received an email from a 12th grade girl who I’d met three days earlier at a youth ministry event. That night,

When Americans Support Murderous Foreign Dictators
Chris McGrath/Getty Images Watching the slow and steady Russian advance toward Ukraine over recent weeks, a stomach-turning series of thoughts took up residence in my head: They’re not going to

Yes, For Some COVID is Over.
COVID is over. That’s the single refrain of Conservative Americans right now. They shout it in red-faced, profanity-laden diatribes at the meetings of beleaguered school boards. They embody it as

One Million Funerals and the Death of Empathy in America
So much to grieve over. It isn’t just their childish tantrums at being asked to wear a mask at the grocery store, or their nonsensical claims of personal oppression. It

How Do You Love Toxic People?
The most common question people ask me when we talk either in person or virtually, is essentially a variation on a single theme: “How do I love someone I no

If Conservatives Want to Ban Dangerous Books, They Better Start With the Bible
Recently, a Tennessee school board voted to ban Maus, a Pulitzer Prize-winning graphic novel about the Holocaust from their eight grade curriculum. This has become a familiar tactic of Republican

Yes, This is All About Tribalism.
Today, I was having a conversation with a man on social media about the Republican Party’s passionate opposition to voting rights, its continued efforts to suppress votes and to gerrymander

All Americans Know January 6th Was An Insurrection. Decent Ones Care.
We all saw it. On January 6th, 2021, many of us watched it in disbelief in real time: the almost incomprehensible sight of thousands of people breaching the very seat

The World Needs Good News This Year. Give it Some.
I’m getting sick of bad news. More accurately, I’m getting sick from bad news. I don’t mean figuratively sick, either—I mean that it is making me physically ill. I wake

#LETSGOBRANDON is The Siren Song of Hateful People
The first time I came across #LETSGOBRANDON, I was in line at a craft store picking up some stocking stuffers, and a woman in her late forties with three young

COVID Stole One Year. The Unvaccinated Stole Another.
Photo: David McNew/Agence France-Presse — Getty Images December 14th, 2020 should have been the beginning of the end of this horror. With the administering of the first dose of a