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We Need to Stop Being Shocked by Sexual Misconduct Allegations
At this point we need to stop being shocked. With each week and with each name that surfaces attached to allegations of sexual misconduct, (most recently, longtime and now terminated

Please Stop Giving Trump Supporters a Stupidity Pass
Ignorance is not a compelling argument. A friend recently offered a theory that I hear all too often from seemingly reasonable adults right now: Trump supporters are somehow victims of

Wham!’s ‘Last Christmas,’ and Our Grief Triggers
Credit: Wham! ‘Last Christmas’ 1984, Epic Records When I was a teenager I always used to hate Wham!’s song “Last Christmas.” With its mid-80’s sanitized production and its woe-is-me sentiments,

You Can’t Write Your Own Obituary
Last night I dreamt I was driving my car down a crowded highway, and just as in my waking hours, l was in a hurry to get wherever I was

Stop Crowdsourcing Your Happiness
“You like me!” – Actress Sally Field, 1984 Academy Award acceptance speech I really want you to like this piece. I don’t mean that I want you to enjoy

It’s Okay to Hate Him
Will Rogers was famously quoted as saying, “I never met a man I didn’t like.” Mr Rogers died well before Donald Trump was even born, so I believe he fully

Giving Thanks for The Fighters
These are days when gratitude might not come easy. It’s tempting to scan the horizon each morning and to let your gaze rest and fix solely on the things that

Grief: The Uninvited Holiday Guest
Every year since my father died, I hope the uninvited guest doesn’t show. Every year around this time I think, “Maybe this will be the year that he won’t make

When Christians Defend Predators
There’s a story in the Bible about one of Jesus’ beloved students named Peter, who publicly denies ever knowing him. Jesus has been arrested and is facing death at the

A Guide to Sexual Assault Claims for Bible Belt Evangelicals
Bible Belt Evangelicals, many of you seem to be having a really tough time navigating sexual assault claims against men in power lately. As a service, I’ve provided the following

Dear Donald Trump, We’re Not Afraid of You.
Dear Donald Trump, I am an American citizen and I am fearful of you. That is to say—I fear your ignorance, your recklessness, and your incompetence because they place this

Kneeling Black Men, Running White Predators
Sometimes the truth about America appears in black and white. Sometimes it comes with unmistakable clarity, even if you’d rather not see what you’re seeing. On the same day this

If You Voted for Donald Trump, You Owe Our Children an Apology
If you voted for Donald Trump, you owe my children an apology. You owe them an apology for making them grow up with a hateful, incompetent, petulant, predatory monster as

Men, We Need to Stop Being Horrible
Guys, we need to talk. I’m sure you’ve been watching the news. I know you see what I see. It seems like every day there’s another stomach-turning mass shooting to

A Letter to Survivors of Sexual Assault
To every person who has survived harassment, abuse, or violation: Dear Friend, I’ve been thinking about you and wanted you to hear a few things today, in case you never

Why Would Anyone Consider Christianity Today?
I’ve been a Christian most of my life; raised in the faith since before I could remember, and serving as a local church pastor for the past twenty years, much

A Year of Resisting in The Worst Case Scenario
2017 has been one long decade… If my wife Jen were being honest, she would probably tell you that I’m a pessimist. I don’t care for the term. I just

My Liberal Agenda
A stranger exposed me yesterday. He visited my Twitter page after the second of two of our nation’s deadliest mass shootings occurring in the past 35 days, to announce that

In Gun We Trust
It’s morning here in America. And there is mourning here in America. It’s the beginning of a new day after yet another massacre with guns. Today (like so many other

Because People Will Die Today
People die every day. People will die today. That may not come as particularly revelatory news to you, but it’s probably not something you’ve thought much about either, as you’ve

What to Tell Your Kids When Bad People Prosper
We parents have stories we like to tell our children: Cheaters never prosper. Honesty is the best policy. Good prevails. Love wins. Sometimes we speak these words as declaration of

White Terrorists Don’t Exist (Apparently)
Some days you just have to count your blessings. I am really grateful to be a white, Christian man living in America today. There are of course, all sorts of

I’m Not Shaming Trump Supporters—Trump Supporters Are
Recently someone suggested to me that I “stop shaming” supporters of Donald Trump The seemingly admirable scolding followed my sharing a news article with the eye-witness account of a group

No, It’s Not You. This is Crazy.
I know what you’re thinking. I know you feel something breaking inside lately; an invisible fracture that only you’re fully aware of. I know the way you walk away from

We Need to Stop Being Shocked by Sexual Misconduct Allegations
At this point we need to stop being shocked. With each week and with each name that surfaces attached to allegations of sexual misconduct, (most recently, longtime and now terminated

Please Stop Giving Trump Supporters a Stupidity Pass
Ignorance is not a compelling argument. A friend recently offered a theory that I hear all too often from seemingly reasonable adults right now: Trump supporters are somehow victims of

Wham!’s ‘Last Christmas,’ and Our Grief Triggers
Credit: Wham! ‘Last Christmas’ 1984, Epic Records When I was a teenager I always used to hate Wham!’s song “Last Christmas.” With its mid-80’s sanitized production and its woe-is-me sentiments,

You Can’t Write Your Own Obituary
Last night I dreamt I was driving my car down a crowded highway, and just as in my waking hours, l was in a hurry to get wherever I was

Stop Crowdsourcing Your Happiness
“You like me!” – Actress Sally Field, 1984 Academy Award acceptance speech I really want you to like this piece. I don’t mean that I want you to enjoy

It’s Okay to Hate Him
Will Rogers was famously quoted as saying, “I never met a man I didn’t like.” Mr Rogers died well before Donald Trump was even born, so I believe he fully

Giving Thanks for The Fighters
These are days when gratitude might not come easy. It’s tempting to scan the horizon each morning and to let your gaze rest and fix solely on the things that

Grief: The Uninvited Holiday Guest
Every year since my father died, I hope the uninvited guest doesn’t show. Every year around this time I think, “Maybe this will be the year that he won’t make

When Christians Defend Predators
There’s a story in the Bible about one of Jesus’ beloved students named Peter, who publicly denies ever knowing him. Jesus has been arrested and is facing death at the

A Guide to Sexual Assault Claims for Bible Belt Evangelicals
Bible Belt Evangelicals, many of you seem to be having a really tough time navigating sexual assault claims against men in power lately. As a service, I’ve provided the following

Dear Donald Trump, We’re Not Afraid of You.
Dear Donald Trump, I am an American citizen and I am fearful of you. That is to say—I fear your ignorance, your recklessness, and your incompetence because they place this

Kneeling Black Men, Running White Predators
Sometimes the truth about America appears in black and white. Sometimes it comes with unmistakable clarity, even if you’d rather not see what you’re seeing. On the same day this

If You Voted for Donald Trump, You Owe Our Children an Apology
If you voted for Donald Trump, you owe my children an apology. You owe them an apology for making them grow up with a hateful, incompetent, petulant, predatory monster as

Men, We Need to Stop Being Horrible
Guys, we need to talk. I’m sure you’ve been watching the news. I know you see what I see. It seems like every day there’s another stomach-turning mass shooting to

A Letter to Survivors of Sexual Assault
To every person who has survived harassment, abuse, or violation: Dear Friend, I’ve been thinking about you and wanted you to hear a few things today, in case you never

Why Would Anyone Consider Christianity Today?
I’ve been a Christian most of my life; raised in the faith since before I could remember, and serving as a local church pastor for the past twenty years, much

A Year of Resisting in The Worst Case Scenario
2017 has been one long decade… If my wife Jen were being honest, she would probably tell you that I’m a pessimist. I don’t care for the term. I just

My Liberal Agenda
A stranger exposed me yesterday. He visited my Twitter page after the second of two of our nation’s deadliest mass shootings occurring in the past 35 days, to announce that

In Gun We Trust
It’s morning here in America. And there is mourning here in America. It’s the beginning of a new day after yet another massacre with guns. Today (like so many other

Because People Will Die Today
People die every day. People will die today. That may not come as particularly revelatory news to you, but it’s probably not something you’ve thought much about either, as you’ve

What to Tell Your Kids When Bad People Prosper
We parents have stories we like to tell our children: Cheaters never prosper. Honesty is the best policy. Good prevails. Love wins. Sometimes we speak these words as declaration of

White Terrorists Don’t Exist (Apparently)
Some days you just have to count your blessings. I am really grateful to be a white, Christian man living in America today. There are of course, all sorts of

I’m Not Shaming Trump Supporters—Trump Supporters Are
Recently someone suggested to me that I “stop shaming” supporters of Donald Trump The seemingly admirable scolding followed my sharing a news article with the eye-witness account of a group

No, It’s Not You. This is Crazy.
I know what you’re thinking. I know you feel something breaking inside lately; an invisible fracture that only you’re fully aware of. I know the way you walk away from